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Magickal Oils of Indonesian Shamanism Part 1
Introduction

Almost every shamanic and pagan culture has its own collection of oils used for occult and magickal purposes. In this article we will describe a few of these "minyak" (as oils are called in the Indonesian/Malayan tongue) to be found in the Indonesian archipelago. This is an on-going project and we may update this article whenever we possess additional information regarding the subject.

There are many oils used for occult purposes; we may divide them into two categories: the ordinary ones, and the extraordinary ones. For instance, Zafarron, Misik, and Gaharu oils as used for anointing and writing sigils, seals, kameas, wefeqs, etc., are the "ordinary" ones. Below we will describe the more extraordinary and unusual types of magical oils. We are not able to personally vouch for the truth of the virtues of any of these oils, or in some cases disinclined to. Their descriptions and use are given merely for the sake of information purposes. It should also be noted that most of these oils are rare and difficult to acquire.

Contents :

Minyak Hadangan Minyak Bintang Minyak Kawiyang Minyak Istanbul Minyak Sinyong-Nyong Minyak Air-Mata Duyung Minyak Bulus Minyak Apel Jin Minyak Lintah Minyak Kesambi and Minyak Banyu Urip Minyak Cimande Minyak Ponibasawa


Minyak Hadangan

For centuries this potent minyak is considered as the king of love oils. Not only is it used for romantic affairs by men and women, it is also often utilized as an occult media for improving one's business, warding-off black magic and protection against negative energies.

This oil is said to be derived from a rare buffalo-species only to be found in the depths of the southern and eastern Kalimantan (Borneo) forest, especially in the locale of Muara Payang, Muara Kumam, in the regency area of Grogot. In the tribal language of the natives, the Pasir people, Hadangan means "buffalo."

These Hadangan buffaloes are wild and aggressive, and exists not in great amounts in the jungles and forests. The oil is acquired when the animal is already dead and in a state of decomposition. For occult reasons it is forbidden to kill this mammal for their fluid extracts. While the dead body of this animal is decaying, it oozes a certain liquid which is the Hadangan oil. Because of the scarcity of this buffalo, the oil extract is a rare curio. Only certain brave villagers of the Pasir tribe who are daring enough to make the trip to the forest and willing to spend days there are able to acquire this oil.

The Pasir tribes are well-known for their black magic. Visitors abusing privileges and acting arrogantly often find themselves subsequently suffering from maladies, and in extreme cases even death. The Pasir people normally apply the Hadangan oil to capture, tame and domesticate the wild buffaloes. Their method of calling forth these animals is to add a few drops of the oil to their tracks, and not long after, as though by magic, the bellowing creatures would appear. The buffaloes are then tamed and enchanted by dabbing extra oil onto their hides. Under the influence of the magical fluid, the buffaloes follow the hunters willingly. During the trip back to the village, the eyes and ears of the buffaloes are purposefully covered by mud and cloths by the enchanter so that the creatures do not feel threatened by the presence of other human beings. Seeing humans and hearing their voices prematurely would infuriate them and they would start attacking all bystanders. The buffaloes only feel safe with their captors.

During the early days of the discovery of the oil, when used solely to fascinate buffaloes, teenagers began wondering of the possibility of its application in other matters considered important--such as in amorous affairs! They reasoned that if buffaloes were to follow its enchanter with the help of the oil, the opposite sex would surely have a similar reaction when applied on them. After a period of experimentation they discovered that their assumption was indeed true.

Above we stated that this oil was taken from the corpse of the Hadangan buffalo and that they are not permitted to be slaughtered for occult reasons. This could be an excuse, however, made by the Pasir people for their own veiled motives. Certain other sources inform us that these animals are killed for this very purpose and that it is possible to extract the oil by boiling the body parts and organs of the buffalo for several hours in an earthen pot until the oil is released. It is said this should be done in the forest with no one around and aware of the operation. Before boiling, a mantra has to be recited in the tribal language of the Pasir people:

"Lakung bikat lalu laut pisang sulu

Sisi rampung uyat bikat

Ina tinggang puluk ulu"

The method of use of the Hadangan oil in love spells is to dab a little of it to any part of the body of the unsuspecting subject that one wishes to attract using only the right ring-finger. Before dabbing, the above mantra has to be silently chanted and then the oil on the finger is to be blown upon with the breath that has been magically influenced by the mantra. After being smeared with this oil the subject would have the user constantly in her thoughts and would strive as much as possible to be near the magical operator even if prior to its use the subject was aloof and inattentive. Most love oils are applied in a similar manner.


Minyak Bintang

This oil is one of the most mysterious. It originates with the Dayak Benuaq and Tujung tribes of Kalimantan. In their dialect they call it Olaau Bintaakng, "Minyak Bintang," or "Star-oil." This fluid can properly be said to be the "elixir of life" as it possesses rejuvenating properties that not only quickens sickly or sluggish bodies, but also has the power, as it is claimed, to revive the dead. Star-oil works in conjunction with certain inner-strength training and powers, which in Indonesian occult circles are called Ilmu Kedigdayaan or Tenaga Dalam. In China these are referred to as Chi Kung. Individuals who have mastered the use of the Star-oil and unfolded their inner strength are believed to be able to quicken their bodies with a new vital life force and awaken themselves from the death-state.

In bygone days, while war was still common among the tribes in Kalimantan and even in other parts of Indonesia, there was this competitive search among the warrior caste for occult objects and psycho-physical training that would confer upon their possessors and practitioners invulnerability against weapons and supernormal strength, so as to provide an extra advantage over enemies. The ancient tribes believed that war should be won at any cost and if it could be done cheaply and swiftly with magick, it would be adopted. This line of reasoning seems to have their supporters in contemporary governments doing research into PSI-War technology.

To return from our digression, however, certain tribes of the Dayaks eventually came up with a most powerful creation that gave them a virtue beyond their wildest dream: Olaau Bintaakng. This was the pinnacle of their ilmu, or occult knowledge and only a few people were able to master it. Those who had this oil and its power were usually uninterested in acquiring other forms of Ilmu Kedigdayaan. The oil would also have certain psychological effects on their minds and alchemically transmuting personal characteristics such as cowardice into bravery. The fear of death is here mitigated by the power of the oil.

The Star-oil is manufactured by the shamans of the tribe and because of the difficulty in its production it is sold at a steep price; it is for this reason that most clients and consumers of this oil are rich members of the community. Its origin and formula is not known as the Dayak shamans are secretive in this matter. Very little outsiders know about the existence of this oil and most that do know consider it as "old wives' tales."

This oil can be said to offer some sort of physical immortality--but on a temporary basis if the weakness and limitation of this ilmu or power is known by one's enemies. The method of defeating someone who is a Star-Oil Master is to vanquish him and them immediately separate his body parts and bury them in different locations. Only in this manner will he be permanently immobilized; otherwise, he would just revive in the middle of the night when the stars are out and resume his physical life. No matter how badly injured, bruised, wounded, and killed in an accident or war, when the stars start shining the corpse would hear the "trumpet-call" and respond with vigor--this is the Dayak's version of the resurrection. This process is dissimilar to zombies, the supposedly living-dead. The corpse of the Star-oil master would actually be reanimated and regenerated with vital-force giving it new life. It does not matter if the blood has been congealed and the body in a rigor mortis condition. When nightfall comes, the body would gradually awaken. The effects of the Star-Oil has some resemblance to the Javanese occult powers such as "Ilmu Rawa Rontek," and "Aji Pancasona."

We believe that scientific research on this oil would be greatly beneficial to humanity although the latter as a whole may not be prepared for it yet. Additionally, acquiring a sample of this oil from the Dayaks for analysis would be quite a problem as they are very wary of strangers visiting their communities or giving their magickal items or secrets away.

The Star-oil itself has a greenish or yellowish hue and is very simply applied. All that one has to do is to consume a few drops on a Thursday night, together with the application of other essential instructions from the shaman and this would be enough to provide one with the life-long power. This occult virtue cannot be magically transferred to others unless they likewise consume the elixir. Dying persons when given this oil-potion would be "guaranteed" to recover even if they were to subsequently show signs of death. The Star-oil would have its effect when the stars are out.


Minyak Kawiyang

Another rare Dayak specialty is Minyak Kawiyang, or "Kawiyang Oil." Some also call it Minyak Sumbulik. According to sources this oil originates in the Kinibalu mountains. There is a romantic legend related to this minyak.

In the olden days there lived at the foot of the Kinibalu mountains a beautiful widow who for some unknown reason year after year grew more and more beautiful. It was not surprising that she had many suitors who sought her hand in marriage. For some reason, though, the matrimonial-state did not last long for her and every marriage ended in divorce.

While on her death-bed, all of her ex-99 husbands came to visit, weeping and regretting their past immature behavior towards her. Minutes after her transition, and in the midst of the gathering, a voice from nowhere was suddenly heard. It said to the men that their wife having loved her husbands dearly left for them a chalice filled with oil. They were instructed by this voice to share the oil among them and to always cherish it as a souvenir and reminder of the woman's love, and that they were not to forget her. This oil later became known as Kawiyang.

Putting legends aside, Kawiyang-oil comes in five different types and colors: black, red, green, yellow and white. Each of these is said to have its own special virtues. The black Kawiyang confers invisibility, charisma, authority, and invulnerability to hand weapons; while the red Kawiyang gives an anti-gravity field to the body making it possible to undergo journeys in the quickest time possible. Wide rivers and mountain crevasses are easily crossed with single leaps. The red Kawiyang also gives the ability to command the Jin spirits to assist in physical combat. Green Kawiyang oil has its use in the santet and teluh forms of black magic. This oil may also be used for gaining or maintaining a youthful appearance. It is believed that this is acquired through vampiric activities. Just a dab of the oil on the neck and the head is supposed to sever itself from the body and fly-off somewhere to look for victims in order to suck their blood. Some of the green oils have bluish tints and this is supposed to be another excellent source for the working of black magic. It has the power to de-materialize objects and materializing it again as malicious implants in the bodies of victims. The unfortunate person subjected to such implants pass away not long after.

Yellow Kawiyang oil is used for love, attraction, and fascination. No spells and mantras are needed for this. All that is required is to acquire a drop or two with the fingertips and to apply them in the palms. The two palms are then rubbed together. After this all that one has to do is to touch with one's hands and fingers the subject that we wish to fascinate--perhaps as in a handshake.

Riches and wealth may be acquired with the utilization of the white Kawiyang oil. This is one of the magical oils mostly pursued--for it has the power to instantly manifest money from the invisible worlds. Those possessing this oil are given financial security. Nothing much has to be done--money materializes supernaturally on one's lap almost without supervision or direction to the familiar spirit associated with the oil. Shipwrecks, destroyed houses and buildings, and buried money are some of the sources of this wealth.

White Kawiyang oil may also be used to magically transport money spent in shopping back to us. In other words, money spent are occultly deported back to the spender.

Each of the oils has its familiar belonging to the genie or jinn type of spirits. The etheric guardian of the white Kawiyang oil has the form of the woman who had 99 husbands. The familiars of the other minyaks are said to be sisters of the above Jinn. They are called Camariah, Dandaniah, Tambuniah and Uraniah.

According to certain native psychics who are well versed with Dayak lore and occultism, in order to function, every year these oils have to be given sesajen, or food-offerings, which are not always fit for human consumption. The black oil should be given the blood of a black chicken together with black glutinous rice. The red and green oil requires blood from one's ring-finger and the water of red sugar-cane, while the yellow and white oils need to be nourished with gold dust.

Although they look fluid, these oils have the consistency of agar or jelly and for reasons not quite known they pulsate visibly as though alive. Although we have not personally seen this ourselves, reliable friends have assured us that this is indeed true as they have seen these oils with their own eyes. When poured out of its vessel it shows its elastic nature like rubber glue.

The oils are kept in little ceramic vessels designed for oils called cupu (pronounced choopoo), but not just any cupu, because inappropriate vessels would crack. They should be in their proper colors too. There should not be any mirrors in the room where they are kept, and enough ventilation is required for their proper preservation.

The cupu containing the Kawiyang oil should be placed upon pieces of cloths assembled in layers, one on top of another. The bottom cloth is white, symbolizing "death." The middle-layered cloth is yellow representing "protection." The uppermost cloth, black in color, signify sanctity.

Atop of the cloths should be placed a plate made out of no other material but white porcelain. A mixture of ordinary rice and the glutinous sort should fill about half the plate. This rice mixture is where the cupu with the Kawiyang oil is placed and maintained.

Should the oils be kept indiscriminately without following the above instruction they would soon lose their power. If this occurs, a certain purification ritual must be conducted every Friday and Sunday nights, including full moons to revive the weakening oil. The method is to set up the oil with the lay-out above and then have 3 pieces of red incenses burning together with a lit candle. The incense should be half-consumed before proceeding to the next step. When ready, raise the oil with the plate, together with the cloths above the incense to be purified by the smoke. Have them encircle clockwise around the incense three to seven times. Put the objects down, and then raise just the plate and the oil and repeat the process. This purification should be done for the third time with only the cupu. Encircle the oil vessel 3 to 7 times clockwise around the smoke. While sanctifying the objects with smoke recite the following mantra:

"Jinak ulah raja benila putih nur putih sinar urang gaib"

Once the purification process has been completed the candle may be extinguished but allow the incense be totally consumed.

There is this belief that Kawiyang oil should be taken out of one's dwelling place when a member of one's household passes away. Only after the deceased has been buried is it permissible to return the cupu with the oil to its original place within the home.

It is also said that the possessor of the Kawiyang oil should not quarrel with one's wife or commit adultery for this would cause ill fortune. If violated one should rectify the situation by pouring the blood of a black chicken onto the oil vessel and the plate of rice. This cleansing should be repeated with red sugar cane juice.

This oil should not be passed on to others indiscriminately. It should only be given to others after having possessed it for at least three years, and not during the night for it is considered dangerous to do so. Those requesting this oil should prepare a cupu and a golden scissors beforehand--the cupu to receive the oil and the scissors to cut the rubbery strands. The one receiving the oil should make a promise to obey the injunctions and to properly care for it. The Kawiyang oil should not be defiled by filthy water, otherwise, it would lose its power.

Copyright © 2006 Luxamore
Leonard Lee aka Luxamore
Metaphysical teacher, counseler, healer and merchant of occult/magickal items of Indonesia.
Magickal Items from Indonesia: talismans, mustika pearls, kerises, etc.
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Loaner’s Remorse? A conversation between Juan Carlos and a billionaire named Yu.
Loaner’s Remorse? A conversation between Juan Carlos and a billionaire named Yu.

By Carl Pantejo

(Excerpt from: “My Friend Yu �" The Prosperity Mentor,” copyright Carl Pantejo 2007 �" Y.N. Vurce Publishing. http://www.ynvurcepublishing.com)

Note: In this article The Original Substance is the name used for: GOD, The One, Gaya, Infinite Intelligence, The Universe, etc. Please substitute this name with whatever name/word you are comfortable with.

A conversation between Juan Carlos “J.C.” and a billionaire named Yu:

…Even though I have a Master of Business Administration degree, I chronically found myself in the same situation: Too much month left over after the money. My friends thought I was a sap, too nice all the time. It’s just that when I saw someone in need, I felt compelled to help. Here in Thailand, it seemed that EVERYONE WAS IS NEED! IN NEED OF MY MONEY! Crying women would come over to my apartment and tell me all their troubles. I believed about one-half of those tales of woe.

“…In Asia, unless you are a bank or a loan shark, it’s common knowledge that there’s really no such thing as “loaning money” to people you know, you simply give it. If they pay you back, fine; but realistically, you shouldn’t expect to ever get it back. Consequently, I ended up giving, not loaning, a lot of my meager teacher’s salary to those people I believed were telling me the truth about their current crisis. Unfortunately for me, and I’m sure you’ve noticed this too; almost all Asians believe that all foreigners are wealthy, “Walking ATM’s”! This lead to most of the recipients to not repaying any money back at all; even when they were able to; because those foreigners are all rich and don’t need the money anyway.” I said, with the bitterness that comes from “loaner’s remorse.”

“J.C., first off; don’t let your friends make you feel like you’ve been a patsy, a pawn that unscrupulous people have manipulated in the past. Your friends have a narrow view of the Universe. And you need not feel depressed at the “lost money” you gave away. If you gave it away with goodness, a truly honest aim to help another human being in a real crisis (no ulterior motives, no strings attached); you will surely get a magnified, return of goodness back from the Universe. It may not be from the same person you helped; but from someone else they positively affected, or the person of the person they affected. It is okay to know that (and expect) a return of goodness from your benevolence. It will enable you to keep the faith and continue giving graciously, cheerfully. The mistake most people make in giving is to expect the positive return to come from the one, particular beneficiary (or beneficiaries) of their good deed. It doesn’t usually happen that way.

The Original Substance keeps perfect “karmic accounting records.” Sometimes many little good deeds on your part are “saved up,” then a huge positive return from the universe is given to you (usually in the form of something you really needed and always at the perfect time). It is inevitable. So, never feel taken advantage of or get into a depressed state over possibly giving something to someone that might have been undeserving. Just give and let it go. The Original Substance always remembers the spirit in which your gifts were given and, in its wonderful and surprising way, rewards you with a magnified return of the perfect goodness for you, at the perfect time for you.

One caveat: If the same people are chronically in need of your financial help and have grown always to depend on you instead of trying to help themselves, then this is not a crisis; it is a condition, a negative condition. In such instances, the best thing to do is show them how to better themselves. You’re not doing them (or you) any good when you nurture that kind of disempowering dependency. It’s the classic “give a man a fish” principle.

So what if some people were dishonest and accepted your money on false pretenses? You may never know; so let it go. Why waste time, energy, and emotion on an issue that may, or may not be true? And if you find out later that, yes, you were taken in by a con artist, don’t hold a grudge. FORGIVE THEM - NOT FOR THEM, BUT FOR YOU. THERE’S NOTHING POSITIVE FOR YOU IN KEEPING THE NEGATIVITY INSIDE. HARBORING NEGATIVITY WILL ONLY ATTRACT MORE NEGATIVITY. Rest assured. The Universe will still remember your true intentions and reward you; while returning an appropriate, magnified payback to the wrongdoer. Acting on true, honest intention is your job. Doing things in the Certain Way is you job. Fulfilling your desires and managing consequences is the Original Substance’s job. In the end, it’s all good…”

(Excerpt from: “My Friend Yu �" The Prosperity Mentor,” copyright Carl Pantejo 2007 �"Y.N. Vurce Publishing. http://www.ynvurcepublishing.com)

Carl Pantejo
Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com


About the Author:

He is a retired U.S. Military veteran. Believing that school was too boring, he dropped out of High School early; only to earn an A.A., B.S., and MBA in less then 4 years much later in life �" while working full-time as a Navy/Marine Corps Medic. In spite of a fear of heights and deep water, he free-fall parachuted out of airplanes and performed diving ops in very deep, open ocean water. He went to Thailand 1 year ago for a week’s vacation, fell into a teaching job, and has never left!

Carl Pantejo, Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com
Author, "My Friend Yu - The Prosperity Mentor”
Founder, Y.N. Vurce Publishing
http://www.ynvurcepublishing.com

He is a retired U.S. Military Veteran. In spite of a fear of heights and deep water, free-fall parachuted out of airplanes and performed diving ops in deep ocean water. He is currently teaching English in Thailand.

Seduction With your Delicious Voice
Can YOU RECALL the last time you heard the newsman deliver his piece and you latched on till the last syllable?

....Or what about that rousing cry by Brad Pitt who
(melodramatically) exhorted, "Beyond that beach is Immortality. Take it. It's YOURS!!"

... How about that time your lover lustily whispered, "the Bedroom. Now." Instantly, you felt hot all over; not because of anticipation, but because of her intonation.

Now, stop, and let's look at at the other side of the coin.

Can you already remember that dull professor who droned on and on. And on and on. Three cups of black coffee nothwithstanding, and you fell asleep despite her topic embracing your dearest hobbies?


The Voice. Forget about the Pen being Mightier than the Sword. The Voice can rip that Mont Blanc to shreds.

Over the spectrum of man's history, men deployed SPEECH like a sword.

Ancient Senators in Greece used grand rhetoric to craft empires. Bill Clinton unleashed charming soliloquys to entice an entire nation. It also got great lovers satisfied and crafty employees a fat raise.

So what's the secret to transforming that rusty vocal weapon into an indomitable Excalibur?

I can give you numerous tips to explode the power of your voice, BUT THERE's ONE overriding principle. Follow it, and all the other tips automatically come into play.

Ready for it?

++PASSION++

That's the key.

Speak with passion, declaim with authority, sing with desire.

ACT AS IF WHAT YOU WERE SAYING CAME FROM THE BOTTOM OF YOUR HEART.

And yes, EVEN when you're droning about yesterday's company stock plunge before the board.

Act disinterested, and people will walk halfhearted.

BUT... if you delivery with intensity, I'm damned confident you'll rouse the masses to your selfish cause. I know, coz it's how I rally the troops.

Don't drone " Yesteryear's poor performance resulted from lackluster product development due to underfunding of the budget department and aggressive performance from the competitor"

Yuch. That's a poor performance speech right there.

Instead, kick up the rhetoric with blazing action words that create images, sounds and pictures.

Flood you voice with gusto, as you say, " Okay, I know we're all REELING from the kicking we took last year. Its smarts AND we deserve it. Why? We ABANDONED product devlopment and sat on our fat butts of the previous years. That gave our opponents room to CHARGE
in and CHECKMATE us into a corner. Is this how it's to be? Gentlemen, we act now or we perish."

Okay, it's melodramatic, but you get my point, don't you?

Okay, a few more pieces of advice.

1) Speak from the diaphragm. Tom Vizzni mentions that quite a lot. If the voice emanates from the throat or the nose, you'll sound pathetic. To ensure that the voice is diaphragmatic, press down on your tummy as you practice speaking. If you feel it rumbling, you'll know
that you're drawing from the lower levels to vastly and naturally explode the resonance of your voice. You'll sound ooohh so sexxxy.

2) Slouch and you're dead. Your posture adds and detracts from your vocal command. Imagine a hidden puppet master perpetually pulling your strings UPWARDS. Try speaking Abe Lincoln's "Four Score and Seven Years Ago" while standing straight AND slouching like a whipped dog. You'll see the difference. DON'T BE LAZY. Do it RIGHT
now!

3) Pepper your words with Action words. Trash the vague abstractions and passive sentence structures- people will lapse into trance and space out... Say, "Mike SLAMMED open the door in disgust. He seethed with fury." Don't say "The door was opened my Mike and he was mad."
Geez.

4) Finally, LISTEN and let PEOPLE speak. Communications is about saying your spiel as fast as you can, then gaining feedback. You and
I would hate the speaker who hogs the floor, woudn't we? I walked out of a Microsoft Convention for Networking Idiots Like Me at the Hotel Shangri-La because the speaker spoke straight for two hours without a forum or even a single question thrown at the audience.

Respect your listeners by listening and gaining feedback.
Feedback is gold.

*** An expert at NLP and negotiation, Joseph R. Plazo, Ph.D conducts leadership executive coaching and helps people find great jobs in the Philippines.

How To Make Others Like You
One of the basic needs of man is to feel accepted. Knowing this is the secret to establishing and maintaining great relationships with various types of people.

A number of books, articles and seminars have taken the role of educating people like you on the different ways of associating with people and building lasting relationships with them. There are several things that you can do when associating with other people.

One of these is to make them feel accepted. According to Maslow?s hierarchy of needs, one of man?s basic needs is to feel a sense of belonging to a group. Man feels the sense of belonging in either small groups like a family and small circle of friends, or big groups like clubs, teams, associations, departments and parties.

People have to feel they belong and are needed. One way to convey acceptance of people?s ideas is by simply listening. Listening communicates the message that their thoughts are valued and their inputs are significant. It answers the very basic need to belong and provides a sense of importance.

Have you ever been in any of the following situations?

While sharing an important insight, somebody would finish the sentence for you.

While narrating what happened over the weekend, somebody would butt in and narrate a similar story.

In a meeting, the boss would cut you short while you are still explaining your side.

You ask your child about his day in school and he runs straight to his room.

You wanted to discuss something with your spouse but he is busy watching football.

How did you feel? Not good, right? It?s as if you are taken for granted. It?s as if no one is listening to you and that you do not matter. It signifies that your thoughts, concerns, and ideas are not accepted.

At the onset of life, an infant can feel this sense of acceptance from a mother who touches and caresses him in a loving way. As he grows older, his sense of acceptance and importance now comes from other family members, friends, teachers, peers, bosses, officemates, spouse, children, etc. Every person needs to be accepted. It puts meaning to a person?s existence.

Imagine a life with total absence of acceptance. Envision the life of babies who were abandoned by their mothers. Imagine the effect this will have on the babies? emotional well-being. It is very possible that these kids will grow up dejected and feeling discriminated. The effects of discrimination can result to resentment and, if uncontrolled, can result to violent tendencies.

The feeling of resentment that is harbored overtime can escalate to anger and hostility. When a person becomes hostile, violence erupts. Resentment is like a forest fire - it can turn wild especially when fanned with more resentments. The mere civil act of accepting a person ?can make or break them,? as the saying goes.

Acceptance must be done unconditionally. The giver should not expect anything in return. There should be no ?no strings attached? or no commitments to fulfill. To expect something in return defeats the purpose of making others like you. In fact, this may only breed resentment, for it would appear that you are manipulating people by forcing them into a situation they may not like in the future.

Unconditional acceptance of other people?s thoughts, ideas, and concerns can yield favorable outcomes. Acceptance elicits cooperation and this leads to working towards a common goal. Acceptance yields positive and fruitful results. At the same time, you have raised the esteem, importance, and morale of the person whom you have accorded respect and acceptance.

Be willing to accept other people?s ideas, thoughts, and inputs. You will harvest not only good results, but also the admiration and appreciation of others, as well.

Without confidence, you would not be able to go on and implement what you have in mind. To find out how to build up courage, improve your relationships, boost your morale, and live the life you want With confidence just visit the website: http://www.self-confidence-self-esteem.info

Power To Overcome Stress
Power To Overcome Stress A. What is stress? Stress can be defined as a number of normal reactions of the body; mental, emotional, and physiological. Stress was designed for self-preservation; however, stress is a normal, desirable and beneficial part of our lives. Stress and Disease Stress now contributes to 90% of all diseases. Half of all visits to doctors are stress �" related. How Stress Invade your Life as a Christian Spiritual causes of stress may include temptations of all kinds: sexual, jealousy of the success of others, anxiety over financial problems, anger/ you live an angry life (lighten up and live), and any other way the devil and his demons can get at us. The Warning Signs of Excessive Stress Spiritual: feeling “disconnected” from God, inability or lack of desire to worship, inability to concentrate during prayer or Bible study, letting fears and frustrations overshadow faith and withdraw from fellowship with the saints. . Conclusion 1. Learn the value of living a stress-free lifestyle everyday of your life. 2. Train yourself to not let things bother you so easily. 3. Practice forgiveness daily. Trust God a. “ I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me”. Phil.4:13 b. “Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.” 1Peter5:7 Let God do the “worry” about the things we tend to get anxious about…

Oral is Pastor of Global Life Church on St. Thomas United States Virgin Island. He lectures at the Global Life Bible Institute. Oral , travels to Africa , United States and the Caribbean ministering to a hurting world. He can be reached at info @ globallifechurch.org. Web site www.globallifechurch.org