Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Controlling your anger

We have always involved in bad emotions.

Way too many I suspect. Bad emotions can show up at work, play, with family, friends in the boardroom or at the baseball field.

Among all, I feel that anger is the most detrimental of the emotions you must
learn to recognize and control. More often than not, how a person reacts at that moment when anger surfaces, or is confronted by someone who is angry, defines a positive or negative outcome and potentially your status among the group of people impacted.

Taking a very simple case, let say when your kids are crying or they are disobedient despite you showing patience to them. When you are at the wits end, you simply let your emotions taking over you and scream at them. I know this is unintentional but you kind of regret for what you have done. You stress level and blood pressure also increase We have all been there and it is not a positive situation to be in and takes a while for everyone to calm down.

On the other hand, when you remain in control and hold your nerves, the anger
subsides and situation becomes manageable and resolves itself quicker.

Besides, anger diminishes our ability to reason and think clearly. Right here I’m not indicating you will never be angry, but keep your emotions in check and be conscious of what you say. It is far better to be silent than say something derogatory, hurtful or irreproachable. Silence sometimes is your best strategy.

Respect is difficult to attain, and can be easily lost by not controlling your negative emotions on your road to success.

Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Motivating myself

How do I motivate myself?

1. Remind yourself why you are doing this

When you start reminding yourself about the main reasons what made you start the project in the first place you'll be more motivated to continue.

2. Post a picture of your goal someplace visible near your desk or create desktop wallpaper.

This is really simple motivating technique: just set a new computer desktop wallpaper to remind you about what you'd need to do.

Or find a magazine photo or a picture online and post it somewhere where you can see it not only daily, but hourly if possible.

Use the power of your visual sense to keep you focused on your goal. Because that focus is what will keep you motivated over the long term once you lose focus, you lose motivation, so having something to keep bringing your focus back to your goal will help keep that motivation.

3. Reward yourself.

And not just for longer-term goals, but for mini goals also. Well, each of those mini goals should have a reward attached to it.

Make a list of your goals, with mini goals, and next to each, write down an appropriate reward.

And last, but not least - Find inspiration, on a daily basis. Inspiration is one of the best motivators, and it can be found everywhere. Every day, seek inspiration, and it will help sustain motivation over the long term. Sources of inspiration can include: blogs, positive people like Maria Duval, success stories, friends and family, magazines, books, quotes, music, photos, people you meet.

These points help me to lead a positive life.

Wednesday, July 18, 2007

Making your dreams come true

Benjamin Franklin was chatting with friends at a Philadelphia tavern when he was accosted by a drunken man who had overheard him discussing the Declaration of Independence.

The drunk shouted at Franklin, “Aw, them words don’t mean nothin’. Where’s all the happiness the document says it guarantees?”

The quick-witted statesman replied, “My friend, the Declaration of Independence only guarantees the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself!”

Therein lies the "problem", as I see it. Many in our society have lost sight of the responsibility they have to "catch" their own happiness (define it as success, if you will). Instead, these unhappy folks rely on the microwave mindset of, "I want what I want and when I want it."

Then, when they don't get what they want/expect (most of the time expecting someone else to do it for them - their spouse, parents, teacher, boss, even the government), they blame everybody else and are quick to tell others that they won't succeed either.

But on the brighter side, I do see many people sticking to their guns and pull their socks up doing something they are passionate with. They borrow the ground, fill the seeds, water the seeds and take care of them. These are the people who know what are the sacrifices required to make their dreams come true.

Sunday, July 15, 2007

Myriad of Emotions

Every day we are alive we experience a myriad of emotions. It is what reminds us of our humanity. Anger is one of those fiery emotions, a colorful vista from the point of view of an ego which knows only the past. As long as we live we will at some point experience anger.

I suppose that every day of our lives is some kind of major test. How do we deal with anger, how do we deal with the inherent tendency to attack a perceived enemy. We observe it and then we let it go. We seel the drama in our own minds but from the point of view of an audience, not a participant.

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

Common Psychic Phenomena

Some of the most frequently experienced paranormal, energetic and psychic events include déjà vu, telepathy, premonitions, past life recall, synchronicities, energetic recognition and many more.

You have been thinking of someone you know only to have, next the telephone rings and discovers that person is on the line? Or perhaps been driving your car and moments later observed the person you were thinking about traveling in another car in the opposite direction? Or you had a dream foretelling an event that later took place?

Déjà vu
You arrive somewhere for the first time and been instantly struck by a strong sense of familiarity of the place? Sometimes, this type of experience can expand to include the conversation and even the actions of the individuals present as events unfold around you – a very powerful experience.

Visit from a non-physical person
Experienced the death of a family member or friend and felt sure of their presence in the period following their passing?

‘Re-discovered’ a photograph of or letter from someone from your past whilst cleaning out a cupboard and shortly afterwards read about them in the news, noticed an identical model, type and colour of the car they used to drive parked across the street from your house, received an e-mail from a friend asking if you know of their whereabouts…………………..or all three!?

YOu been pondering a difficult question, absorbed in your own thoughts before unexpectedly encountering a discarded newspaper or magazine from whose randomly opened pages certain words seemed to ‘fly off the page’, providing a fresh viewpoint or even a direct answer to your dilemma?

Energetic recognition or familiarity
You meet someone for the first time and despite being able to confirm that you could not have previously met them in this physical life, felt certain you recognized them at the moment of introduction? Many readers would be able to add examples of similar phenomena as well as variations to this short list, each a small glimpse that suggests there is a great deal of life left to be uncovered by us all.