Sunday, September 28, 2008

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7 Highly Effective Habits for Stress Releasing
7 highly effective habits of stress releasing are outlined below. You as an individual can consider them and customize them to your own daily regimens.

If your goal is to improve your career, succeed at putting money in the bank, feel happier, and effectively use The Law of Attraction, this article may help you organize yourself and become more efficient emotionally and mentally. These 7 effective habits, or however many your most efficient version ends up being, will attract the life you want, if you can manage the stress releasing part.

The Abraham materials (Ester and Jerry Hicks) really cut to the chase. Stated simply, you have two feelings - you may feel good and you may feel bad. 2 different vibrations, each attracting more of the same. If you have stressful thoughts that cascade like a runaway train, you do need a method to switch tracks.

Number 1: just to slow things down a little, a few deep slow breaths. The sooner you employ this, the less stress chemicals will be flooding your bloodstream and brain, and the faster you'll recover your good feelings.

Number 2: eat if you are hungry, preferably no sugar. If you have passed your snack time or mealtime, you have set your nervous system up for a negative response to anything.

Number 3: ditto for hydration. Do you always have a bottle of water handy? At your desk, in the car, walking the dog, etc.

Number 4: daily meditation. (But I don't have time...!!) Here's a method. When your alarm goes off, hit the snooze button. Sit up, drink some water, and then for the next few minutes, deep breathe and count as you exhale. This is a focusing tool to get your mind off your early stressful thoughts. Just for a few minutes every morning, to make it a habit.

Number 5: develop the scenario of your desired outcome in life. Be it home, partner, finances, get the overall picture and express it to yourself, emphasizing how it feels deep inside. Exactly in the spot in your body where your stressful thoughts attack, you want to feel a deep peace, warmth, quiet thrill, energy, or whatever it is for you. Write this on an index card and keep it with you at all times. If you're not an expressive writer, do it in point form. This is an effective way to remind yourself of your outcome, as you run the gauntlet of your day.

Number 6: exercise. We are made to move and stress ourselves a little physically, every day. You know you can't park your car for a few months without something needing a tune up. What about your body? If you have physical problems, consult your doctor. If you're out of shape something like Slow Burn, a super slow motion method, is great. And whatever makes you feel good - walking, yoga, weight resistance. There are a lot of ways to learn for free if your cash flow is low right now. Library books, internet - there is a glut of info waiting for you. Biochemically, exercise is necessary to release endorphins, your feel-good chemicals. Not to mention the cascade of other healthy cellular events exercise triggers.

Number 7: if your stressful states are persistent, there are energy methods of reversing your nervous system's response to thoughts and feelings. Simple to learn and do in minutes. These will keep you on the path to be using The Law of Attraction to the max.

This simplification is deliberate. The simpler the better. Whatever you formulate to be your 7 highly effective habits to stress releasing and fullfillment, I wish you the best, and even better.

Dianne M. Buxton is a ballet teacher, and a writer. If you find these ideas useful, you can find out more about them here.

Is Childishness a Social Problem?
You will acknowledge that immaturity does not do much damage. You will also be in agreement that it often makes some people quite sweet as long as they do not go beyond it. Of course it is quite charming most of the time, but only as long as it does not hinder with the individual’s point of view of reality, or come in a way of crisis solving and resolution making tasks that need to be handled with some degree of maturity. You must come across the woman who refuses to wish a hearty farewell to her infancy. She wears pigtails and gorges on candy bars, adores soft toys and bursts into peals of high-pitched laughter at the slightest provocation. She just can’t resist being called lovable, mushy. She loves nicknames. She is quite cute, very cute. Sickeningly cute, some might go so far as to say. Why, oh why can’t some people just grow up? Take that 25 aged public relations executive with a respectable firm example. Her problem is that she just does not get taken seriously. “I hate it. Just because I joke and laugh and am always getting teased does not mean I am not a professional. Why don’t people judge me by the quality of my work rather than my personality?” she asks. Unfortunately for her, she’s found out too late that her early childhood habit of frivolity has been silently working against her. “No matter what I do now, people still look upon me as a kid,” she complains. She believes she’s corrected the issue by toning down her hairstyle, losing the baby talk, and dressing more professionally. But perhaps she does not realize just how deep the habit has seeped into her system.” How do you sit down and a serious brainstorming session with someone who is always giggling and joking?” asks one of her colleagues. “It is so irritating. Besides, it certainly does not give clients a good impression. What is worse is the way her voice lowers into the childish tone when you get angry with her. Who does she think, she is fooling?” But she finds it bewildering that her colleagues don’t think she’s interesting. After all, her boyfriend just loves her behavior, her mother adores it and so do all her friends. She’s been pampered and hugged and kissed silly. But it just won’t work in the office, and it’s getting difficult to play down what’s become a habit. A clinical psychologist explains that people who behave in a childish manner are fully aware of what they are doing, no matter what they might lead you to think. It’s merely an attention-getting device; they want you to notice them. But that, she explains, is one way of looking at it; the other being that the individual is falling into what is known as the “Peter Pan Syndrome” (for more, you may read ‘http://www.amazon.com/Peter-Pan-Syndrome-Never-Grown/dp/0396082181’), the “Peter Pan Syndrome” which happens when the individual is afraid of growing up. “Childishness is a defense mechanism that people use to escape their responsibility, afraid of being blamed when something goes wrong and who are intrinsically insecure. It is that fear that drives a woman to act childish, hoping that someone else will take over.” For a teenager, passing into her mature years means a threatened loss of innocence. For someone who has cultivated the image of being cute and adorable, being protected and defended becomes a part of life. The clinical psychologist explains that when a woman fears losing the protection that she always had, and is faced with having to take decision, act responsible and mature, she sometimes resorts to pouts, tears and giggles. The transition not only means giving up the dependence, but it is difficult since it’s always easier to let someone else make decision and take responsibility for you; besides it also involves a sudden role reversal �" till now you were protected and cared for, now you have to do it �" and sometimes for others. Some men fail to understand that their wife’s childish behavior is in fact plea for attention. When she does not get it, she often buckles it and takes charge. He is on the other hand, can’t understand how this once immature, childish woman can take charge of her own life. Inside it all, the woman has been very mature and rational, while externally exhibiting signs of immaturity. However it is important to know that the whole childish act is not restricted to woman alone. “Have ever seen a guy show off his new car?” A lot of guys behaving childishly in social situations and it is understood that it’s probably because they missed out on something when they were young, were too busy studying, or because of too much parental pressure. That’s why; men go ‘gaga’ over a new music system, a car, or a girlfriend. It’s like a toy they couldn’t enjoy when they were young. The Psychology - MauriTravel

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Meditation: Choosing the Right Music for the Right Meditation Technique
Many people when they begin learning meditation find it hard to really get into the swing of it. They will purchase books and cd's on meditation but nothing really seems to work. Most meditation kits that you buy either on the internet or at a bookstore will come with at least one style of meditation music, but be warned if you use the wrong type of meditation music for the meditation technique you are using during your meditation session all that will happen is that you will get frustrated and you will not achieve the outcome you are looking for. There are many different types and styles of meditation but I want to categorize them into three core groups: 1. Relaxation Meditation Techniques 2. Reflective Meditation Techniques 3. Affirmation Meditation Techniques The style of meditation music used for the relaxation meditation technique is dramatically different to that used in the reflective meditation technique and affirmation meditation technique. Let me explain … The core object of relaxation meditation is too simply so down, relax and allow the stress in your body to simply flow away. It is crucial with this style of meditation that the music you use for the meditation technique is easy to listen to and has elements in the music that your accentuate peace and harmony. For example the meditation music may be played on a flute with water flowing in the background. Alternatively, the meditation music might be based on noises in a rainforest or in the bush. The music being used must reflect the object of the meditation session. For affirmation meditation techniques the best style of meditation music to use is something that has a beat. One of the best meditation music styles I like for this technique comes from the Sound track of Kundun. The music used in the sound track is written based on the sounds used in Tibetan Monasteries. The beats or drums within the music can help you in setting a rhythm for learning and empowering your affirmations. Where as the style of music that you should be using for the reflective meditation techniques should have a beat of 60 beats per minute. Baroque music played at 60 beats per minute is the best style. It has been shown through a range of studies that because our heart rate is designed to beat at 60 beats per minute, when the music is played at this rate it heightens our ability to learn. Essentially the research showed that the baroque meditation music causes your brain to produce more alpha or calmness waves when listening to this style. This calmness happens on both the left and right sides of your brain. This simply results in you calming down and relaxing in a similar way to when you whistle a happy tune. The "alpha" state of mind is ideal for learning and creativity, which is what you are trying to achieve during a reflective meditation session. If you were to use say the a strong beat mediation music say from the Kundun soundtrack during a relaxation meditation session you would find that it would be difficult to relax and in fact you will most likely find that you are unable to focus on your meditation. Choosing the right style of meditation music for your meditation is absolutely crucial to ensure that your mediation session delivers the results that you would expect.

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Four Simple Steps to Less Stress by Taking Yoga “Off the Mat”
It’s not hard to imagine Henry David Thoreau living in utter simplicity on his land at Walden Pond in Concord, Massachusetts. Spending only $28.12 on a 10x15 square foot home and living a Spartan lifestyle, he went to the woods to live deliberately, learn life’s lessons and feel a sense of “having lived” when he died.

Nobody wants to go to the grave feeling as if life was wasted. We all want to live completely, fully. But for most of us, living like Thoreau is more of a fantasy. We’re busy earning a living, keeping family responsibilities and saving for retirement.

So here’s the question for those of us fully immersed in a typical 21st century day: rather than retreating to the woods, can we live deliberately, here and now, in the circumstances we currently find ourselves?

The answer is a conditional yes. Yes because the essentials, by definition, are always present. The most essential is your indivisible essence, the core of who you are. It’s impossible to be separated from it. The ‘yes’ is conditional, though, because we need more vigilance to stay focused on the essentials when our busy lives pull and push us off course.

Yoga cultivates that focused awareness to keep our minds here in the present moment. Rather than just a series of postures to open your hips, a yoga mindset can open your heart. By integrating principles of yoga into life on a daily basis, and not just in a weekly Hatha yoga class, a new world of opportunities can be found.

With the knowledge that this moment is inherently whole, relaxation appears. Just trust that where you are now has what you’re looking for. This is yoga. And with this definition, everything is yoga.

Taking Yoga “Off the Mat”

There’s a simple four-step process you can use to cultivate a yoga focus in everyday life. That process is called EASE, an acronym that stands for Experience, Awareness, Self-Reflection and Elect.

Step One: Experience

By watching your own experience closely, you can see the truth of the ever-changing nature of the world. During a in Hatha yoga class, the teacher instructs you to notice your feet connecting with the floor in Tadasana, or to see where your breath resides in Trikonasana. This same level of attention can be brought to everyday circumstances.
Try this exercise. While you are feeling angry, sad, happy or excited about the anticipation of something, notice the answers to these questions:

· What emotion is present?
· How is my breathing?
· What am I saying to myself?
· How am I behaving?
· What am I feeling in my body?
· What is my energy level?

The simple step of noticing your experience while it’s happening, or reflecting upon it later, can immediately illuminate where needless tension is being generated.

Step Two: Awareness

Awareness is the ability we have to broaden our perspective in a given moment. The interpretation of an event comes not from the experience itself, but from where attention is placed. Expanding awareness provides numerous choices for directing attention.
Notice yourself reading these words. What are you aware of? Now turn your attention to your big toe. Notice where it is and how it feels. Is it hot or cold? How does your sock feel against your toe? Can you feel your shoe pushing against it? Can you feel the contact with the adjoining toe?

A moment ago, you were probably oblivious to your big toe. The simple act of bringing your attention to it, however, has expanded your current experience to include these new sensations.

Ask yourself the question, “what else is there in this moment?” Then, relax. Soften your edges, let go of your grip on the rope slightly. Slow down. Step away from the problem.
Awareness holds infinite possibilities.

Step Three: Self-reflection

Self-reflection answers the question, “How do you want to be in this world?” We’re misled when continually asked, “What do you want to do when you grow up?” Regardless of age, some of us still struggle with what we want to do for a living, which implicitly implies that some distant point in the future holds the key to our happiness. A much more present-oriented (and easier) question to answer is how we want to be, which of course could be lived in this very moment.

Answering the question of how we want to be focuses on the values we deem important. Do you want to be loving, courageous, compassionate, or adventurous? Pick one or two ways of being that resonate with you and then use your everyday life as the practice ground for bringing them to life.

Step Four: Elect

The last step of the EASE process is to elect or choose, in a given moment, to act consciously and in accordance with your values. Saying what we value is much easier than actually living it. Life is the testing ground for understanding at a very deep level what these values mean. What does it mean to be patient when your son comes home drunk? What does it mean to be loving when your boss is being demanding and arrogant? What does it mean to be courageous when the fear of rejection is paralyzing?
The practice of life gives us unlimited opportunities to explore the implications of our chosen values.

Life is messy. At times we feel lost, as if we’re wondering hopelessly through an impossible maze, stuck in a confining box. Life, though, is more like a labyrinth. We may feel disoriented, but there is only one path�"the one we are on. And the path leads to the center every time, without exception.

Adapted from the book Infinity in a Box: Using Yoga to Live with Ease (http://www.yogawithmegan.net/infinity.html ) by Megan McDonough. Megan helps you get clear in body, mind and spirit so you can get the results you want. Along with teaching yoga, she’s an award-winning writer, consultant and corporate trainer. She’s taught at the famed Kripalu Center, the largest site for yoga and holistic health in the United States and is on the faculty of the Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy Advanced Training. This article may be freely reprinted or distributed in its entirety in any ezine, newsletter, blog, or website. The author’s name, bio and website links must remain intact and be included with every reproduction.

Meditation Techniques
Meditation Techniques Meditation refers to a state where your body and mind are consciously relaxed and focused. Practitioners of this art report increased awareness, focus, and concentration, as well as a more positive outlook in life. Meditation is most commonly associated with monks, mystics and other spiritual disciplines. However, you don’t have to be a monk or mystic to enjoy its benefits. And you don’t even have to be in a special place to practice it. You could even try it in your own living room! Although there are many different approaches to meditation, the fundamental principles remain the same. The most important among these principles is that of removing obstructive, negative, and wandering thoughts and fantasies, and calming the mind with a deep sense of focus. This clears the mind of debris and prepares it for a higher quality of activity. The negative thoughts you have �" those of noisy neighbors, bossy officemates, that parking ticket you got, and unwanted spam�" are said to contribute to the ‘polluting’ of the mind, and shutting them out is allows for the ‘cleansing’ of the mind so that it may focus on deeper, more meaningful thoughts. Some practitioners even shut out all sensory input �" no sights, no sounds, and nothing to touch �" and try to detach themselves from the commotion around them. You may now focus on a deep, profound thought if this is your goal. It may seem deafening at first, since we are all too accustomed to constantly hearing and seeing things, but as you continue this exercise you will find yourself becoming more aware of everything around you. If you find the meditating positions you see on television threatening �" those with impossibly arched backs, and painful-looking contortions �" you need not worry. The principle here is to be in a comfortable position conducive to concentration. This may be while sitting cross-legged, standing, lying down, and even walking. If the position allows you to relax and focus, then that would be a good starting point. While sitting or standing, the back should be straight, but not tense or tight. In other positions, the only no-no is slouching and falling asleep. Loose, comfortable clothes help a lot in the process since tight fitting clothes have a tendency to choke you up and make you feel tense. The place you perform meditation should have a soothing atmosphere. It may be in your living room, or bedroom, or any place that you feel comfortable in. You might want an exercise mat if you plan to take on the more challenging positions (if you feel more focused doing so, and if the contortionist in you is screaming for release). You may want to have the place arranged so that it is soothing to your senses. Silence helps most people relax and meditate, so you may want a quiet, isolated area far from the ringing of the phone or the humming of the washing machine. Pleasing scents also help in that regard, so stocking up on aromatic candles isn’t such a bad idea either. The monks you see on television making those monotonous sounds are actually performing their mantra. This, in simple terms, is a short creed, a simple sound which, for these practitioners, holds a mystic value. You do not need to perform such; however, it would pay to note that focusing on repeated actions such as breathing, and humming help the practitioner enter a higher state of consciousness. The principle here is focus. You could also try focusing on a certain object or thought, or even, while keeping your eyes open, focus on a single sight. One sample routine would be to �" while in a meditative state �" silently name every part of you body and focusing your consciousness on that part. While doing this you should be aware of any tension on any part of your body. Mentally visualize releasing this tension. It works wonders. In all, meditation is a relatively risk-free practice and its benefits are well worth the effort (or non-effort �" remember we’re relaxing). Studies have shown that meditation does bring about beneficial physiologic effects to the body. And there has been a growing consensus in the medical community to further study the effects of such. So in the near future, who knows, that mystical, esoteric thing we call meditation might become a science itself! Written by http://www.diyconservatories-and-windows.co.uk/ of http://www.digital-view-web.co.uk/

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The Importance Of Knowing Yourself
Knowing yourself is a very important task that one has to undertake and the most challenging as well. When one knows who he is and clearly understands what he wants, then he has a better option of discovering how to reach his own success, personal fulfillment and happiness. Knowing one’s true and inner self will be of great help in working to reach one’s goals more effectively. It will guide one through the path to success. It will transport one to such calmness so to improve one’s attitude as well as one’s relationships and connections with others. Psychologists devote their time helping individuals see and understand things within their inner self which they have long been suppressing from their own selves. This is natural, as people are skilled at such hiding games. Often, when one does not wish cope with a certain circumstance or situation, one denies that it had transpired, or translate it so to fit another different perception of the world. Knowing yourself consequently, empowers and enables you to create different choices. Success easily comes to those with pleasing personalities. However, this does not necessarily mean that one needs do what everyone wishes; rather, acquire a positive attitude of being respectful to the opinion of others at the same time remaining true to one’s own beliefs. Don't expect to suddenly go on a certain course and immediately become aware and know yourself. This is a voyage where one can board and allow it to transform one’s life, for the better. The success of such journey depends deeply on how bravely you face yourself; on the way, you might discover certain things that you do not like and possibly opt to hide or deny it. Be strong and accept those negative things because it is only by accepting your faults can you truly change for the better. Be open to accept and listen to the opinion of others, eager and willing to learn. Changing your judgment and views on account of more reliable facts is not a sign of weakness but of strength in your character. Always be inclined to offer help, be caring and polite but do not forget to keep your own personality. The basic principle of knowing yourself is that every individual is responsible, in control and generate their own life encounter. This is a process very much complex that may be severely obstructed when one is unconscious of how one functions, or if one has a misunderstanding of thyself. Rationalizations are used by many to give justifiable explanation for their actions. One can pretend that the problem is to be blamed on the other person. This is known as projection. You therefore need to discover and improve your true person and not what others perceive you to be, and also not who you believe you must be, but the person that you truly are. How you manage your life, guide others, take charge, perform and behave in relationships really depends on how effectively you use your strengths and identify your weaknesses that you will discover when you truly know your "self." Understand how you could guard yourself against responses triggered by emotions. You are vulnerable to miscalculation of judgment should you permit your emotions to interfere. Indeed, everything that one does is based on one’s emotions, but angry or careless emotions does not have a place when it comes to decision making. Take control of your emotions and delay conclusions, decisions and choices when in a very emotional state. Develop enthusiasm in yourself. Enthusiasm draws good relationships and success. It is that positive outlook that radiates on you that individuals like dealing with. Your positive and enthusiastic outlook will contaminate and encourage those around you to also be enthusiastic and positive, therefore become cooperative. Also, be ready to face unreasonable and negative people and never let them destroy you. Stay reasonable and calm. Knowing yourself will enable you to develop your full potential and be happy, contented and fulfilled. Whether one’s idea and understanding of success speaks about fulfillment in business, friendship, love, sports, a blend of all these or another thing altogether, knowing yourself and working on to change for the better will enable you to achieve your goals. Then when you reach your goals, indeed you will turn out to be a much happier person. And that is success in its truest sense.

Markeith Williams is a personal coach and business owner. He is the CEO of River Sity Allince Inc, and give lectures around the world.

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