Thursday, September 18, 2008

Maria Duval - I am Charmed, and You?

I am Charmed, and You?
Possessing a charming way will open many doors. The latent charm lurking within you is your secret and hidden away gold mine. Your charm is like a pearl inside the oyster, and once it is discovered and polished can highlight and greatly enrich your personality and success. Charm is that intangible quality within you, that when uncovered and freed from suffocating baggage, can add a subtle power to your presence that is irresistibly pleasing. The influence of this charm will attract, calm, assuage, placate and delight anyone with whom you come into contact. The ability to win over and influence people is in direct proportion to the charm you are able to summon up and demonstrate. Charm can be developed like every other quality or attribute of the mind by adopting and practicing some basic rules. Adaptation, the art of agreeing with another person for the sake of amicability is lesson one. Finding common ground through genuine curiosity lowers defenses and paves the way for further exploration. Adaptation is an acknowledgment of another’s ‘right to be’ right or wrong. As Voltaire said, "I do not agree with a word you say but I shall defend to the death your right to say it." The goal is to charm not to reform. The primary rule is for you to be yourself. Any kind of physical makeover, including that phoney smile, won’t do the trick. Affectations and pretense, even a well rehearsed choreography, is swift and certain death to charm. It is easy enough to attract and get attention by artifice, but to influence anyone beyond surface pleasantries, you must possess the power of charm within. A smile may win a first look, but it takes the conscious power of charm to obtain results. Authenticity is genuine and indisputable, easily picked up by others as the real thing, where pretense is usually unmasked. By practicing the techniques of charm from within, you can put your prospect or antagonist at ease and even inspire them to do your bidding. Projecting charm requires give and take. The first technique is to listen. You must be an attentive listener interested in hearing what the other person has to say, which also means paying close attention and really comprehending what they have to say and where they are coming from in saying it. The second fundamental is to always be humble, gentle and polite. By adopting these traits you will project a gracious and friendly manner which communicates the attitude that you are both likeable and approachable. Treat all people that you meet as potential friends. By displaying an open and positive attitude, and making others feel that your own life was incomplete before having met them, empowers them, and in turn they will become endeared to you. Interest, kindness, and humbleness are a major part of being charming. Giving praise is another. Praise is like a rare gemstone which derives its worth from its scarcity. Praise is one of the greatest motivating forces there is, and when sincerely applied can work wonders. Praise a dog and he is your friend. Praise children and they will glow with joy. Praise your ability with gratitude and you increase the flow of intelligence into your endeavors. Positive praise feelingly applied is an active multiplier. Praise what you have and more will be available to you. Praise is a positive expression of appreciation. In the case of others, it gives hearty and warm approval and breaks down barriers. If anyone you meet deserves your approbation, by all means give it, and in so doing you enhance their appreciation of your own qualities, a win win situation powered by charm. The third element of charm is tolerance. Life is a compromise, and to realize and accept this adds to ones peace of mind and enjoyment. People are entitled to their own opinion, and possessing tolerance allows respect for diverse opinions, without necessarily believing or sharing them. Respect for another’s point of view will always enlarge your own world view. By exercising tolerance you dispel prejudice and vanity. It is the essential quality necessary to establish the true relationship between divergent situations on an impersonal basis. By becoming tolerant you learn not to take the world and the events and people in it too seriously, yourself included, thus enabling your sense of humor to expand. A true and easy smile and the ability to have a good laugh will relax you, and in so doing, aid you in peace of mind and efficiency. Tolerance and a good sense of humor are indeed additional gems to have in your crown of charm. Charm is the art of pleasing. You need to be poised along with possessing the ability to act natural. Your ability to be pleasingly spontaneous and to act natural is a reflection of your habits. If these habits have been formed through the proper training of grace, poise and cleanliness, then they add to your charm. Negative habits of sloth, crudeness and loutishness diminishes. Charm refines the essence of your personality and permits the radiant beauty of your real being to shine through. Possessing charm will greatly augment your effectiveness. It makes it possible for you to always present yourself in the most favorable light. Through the glow of charm you will feel healthier and those worry lines will soon be replaced by your infectious smile. So train and equip yourself in the art and power of charm. It will enrich your presence and add immeasurably to your personal satisfaction and happiness.

Henry Ramsey is a writer and renewable energy systems specialist who rides an electric bicycle. He is the innovator of New Paradigm Internet Marketing sites like http://www.Rollingems.com, www.MyEbikes.com and www.HappyThoughtLifestyles.com

How to Manifest Reality
How to Manifest Reality
by Jimmy Roos

Words: 608
CPL: 65

So you want to know how to manifest reality, right?
Actually you're already doing it. You're creating reality
every second of every minute of every hour of every day.
But I suspect you don't like what you are creating.

And you know why? Its because you're creating by default.
What do I mean by that. What I mean is this. You're
manifesting reality but are unaware of what, or how you're
creating, so you think you don't know how to manifest
reality.

However the thruth is you're already manifesting reality.

You are manifesting what is already in your subconscious.
Most of what is stored there is junk, that's why the
reality you experience everyday is junk.

It's a question of what you put in, you put out. So where
does all the junk come from? Well it comes from your past.

Since the time you were young you have been collecting all
kinds of stuff, some good others not so good. Again not
consciously but unconsciously, because you were not aware
of it. However the fact of the matter is that your
subconscious is like a tape recorder.

It records all your experiences irrespective of whether they
are good or bad, and here comes the part that this article
is about. It plays out those experiences in our lives and
we call that manifesting reality.

In other words, the question "how to manifest reality" is
answered right there. The subconscious doesn't discriminate
in any way or use any kind of filter.

It records whatever it hears, translate YOU HEAR, it sees
translate YOU SEE, it experiences, translate YOU EXPERIENCE.

So this also explains why you get what you get.

Here's another twist to how to manifest reality. You see,
something happens whenever you experience events attracted
to you by your subconscious.

What happens is this. The experience bothers you. It bothers
you so much that you find yourself unable to keep your
mind of it. And what happens next is this: that experience
or something similar to it is repeated in your life.

Let me give you an example. Lets say you had a bad childhood
and experienced things like rejection. Now what happens is
that the episode of rejection is recorded in your
subconscious, meaning that you experience more rejection
which is attracted by your subconscious.

So, everytime you're rejected you feel real bad. You
wonder why.

You dwell on it. You become angry and bitter. You blame
those who rejected you. Sometimes you hate them and vow
to pay them back.

And you know what? That experience happens again.

Now, I have explained to you how to manifest reality,
actually how you manifest reality. But that was more
reality by default.

Creating your ideal reality, in other words, the things
you want, is a more conscious effort.

It requires that you first gain the awareness that you're
ultimately a powerful being and the creator of your reality,
whether good or bad.

You need to realize that whatever you see on the outside
is an accurate reflection of what is on the inside. Stop
blaming other people, they are just instruments who fulfill
the wishes of your subconscious.

If you want to change your outer reality, you need to change
what is on the inside.

To create your ideal reality, focus on the things you
want, not on the things you don't want, even if that's what
is happening right now. Because if you don't your currently
reality will persist.

Tomorrow is created today. So focus on what you want today
and tomorrow you'll have what you want.

That in a nutshell, is how to manifest reality.

Jimmy Roos has failed most of his life. After much trial and error he finally discovered how to manifest his desires. Now he wants to help you, manifest yours. Visit his website, http://www.how-to-manifest-your-desires.com

Stop Doing What Does Not Work For You
Do you want to invigorate yourself? Do you want to feel life’s energy rushing through your veins? Do you want to get on track, get going, finally make some real headway and cruise your way through life? Then let me tell you this: in order to get these juices flowing, you have to stop doing what does not work for you. Stop doing all those things that drain your energy and make you feel empty. Stop sitting around and start standing up for yourself! Get rid of relationships that do not help you grow. Get rid of food that does not feed you. Get rid of activities that do not build you up! Stop doing whatever it is that makes you tired, irritated and grumpy. Break with people who don’t support you and deplete your energy! Stop doing whatever it is that pulls your energy level down, and start doing whatever it is that lifts your energy level up! 1) People �" Break with people who ‘vampirize’ you �" those who are constantly feeding off your precious energy. If you feel empty and muddled after meeting with certain people, then don’t meet with them anymore! When you feel your energy level is higher after meeting with certain people, then they are okay for you. Be aware of your energy level and how people affect it, and then act accordingly! 2) Conversations �" Stop participating in conversations that keep you down, that make you feel annoyed or angry. Try to express your ideas in a calm and clear fashion, but if the other is not paying attention, then leave the conversation and go on with your business! 3) Activities �" Stop doing whatever it is that makes you feel exhausted. If you don’t like cleaning the house, then find somebody else to do it for you, EVEN if you would do a better job by yourself! The question is not, “Who does a better job?” The question is, “What does this activity do to my energy level?” Stop doing what brings you down. Instead, do what boosts your energy. 4) Food �" Stop eating and drinking food that makes you drowsy or bad tempered. Food has a direct influence on your mood. If drinking too much coffee makes you irritable, then don’t drink too much coffee. If drinking one cup of coffee in the morning gives you the energy to get started, then drink one cup of coffee. If one glass of wine makes you euphoric, then drink one glass of wine. If three glasses of wine make you feel dizzy, then don’t drink three glasses of wine. 5) Job �" Appreciate and be appreciated. If your boss talks down to you, humiliates you, and doesn’t appreciate your work, then leave him. Find yourself a better boss! Find yourself a boss who DESERVES having YOU as an employee! Don’t stay around someone with such a low energy level. He will keep bringing you down. Find yourself a boss or a job that lifts up your energy level. When you try to hold on to a job that drains all your energy, then before long you will surely develop some kind of disease. Nobody can withstand a climate of low energy without paying the high price of illness and depression. 6) Places �" Don’t stay in places where you don’t feel good. Some restaurants and cafés are so noisy that it’s impossible to spend time there without severely attacking your energy vibrations. Too much noise, too many people, too much chaos will inevitably drag you down. Don’t stay in a house that has a bad energy to it. If a place is good for you then you will feel an energy boost whenever you spend time there! This advice seems so simple that you might think I’m treating you like a four-year old. Make no mistake! Four year-olds often have a healthier relationship with themselves than we do. They will not go on eating or drinking something they do not feel comfortable with, but many adults do! Take their example! What to do when you notice that your energy level has been dragged down by a person, a place, an activity, or anything else? No problem, you can fix it immediately! The best remedy to uplift your energy vibration is: Nature. Go for a walk in the forest, or the park. Breathe the oxygen. Observe a flower in close-up. Look how Mother Nature very carefully painted the nerves in the leaves, and your energy level will be skyrocketing. Watch some children play, listen to some birds sing. Take your time. If you can’t go out, then put on some inspirational music and dance around the table. This will do you good. Go to a quiet room and meditate for a while. Imagine you have an energy channel starting at your spine and going into the heart of the earth. Send down all the bad and low energy vibrations. Mother earth knows how to transform them into high-level energy. Imagine a channel from your spine into heaven, and feel how divine celestial energy is flowing into your body to replenish you with high-energy vibrations. See yourself surrounded by a magnificent white golden light. You can do this even at work, sitting in front of your computer, at a meeting, anywhere, anytime. You can also carry a gemstone with you, and “instruct” it to deviate low energy vibrations and permit only good vibrations to touch you. You are the shepherd of your own energy. What vibration do you prefer: high or low? It’s up to you to flow around what feels bad and stick to what feels good. It’s up to you to clean up your energy field. Nothing too complex, just regular maintenance. Take an energy shower in the forest. Breathe!

Written by Ineke Van Lint, psychologist. Live your life your way, full of joy, abundance and enthusiasm! I will help you to find your passion and create success. Two free e-courses on http://www.theenthusiasm.com

7 Spells to Unstoppable Magnetic Attraction
Beauty holds a golden mirror to the shimmering inner essence. It reflects true self-perception as well as the extent of one's discipline.

Attractiveness indicates a sensitivity to those around us. Just as we shine our shoes, wash our cars or trim our lawns to provide “eye-candy” to passers-by, we keep our bodies in the pink of health to offer delightful icons worthy of emulation.

I believe that beauty is not trivial; it is core to civilized society. Imagine everyone abandoning restraint and shuffling around in tattered clothes, drooping bellies, dishevelled hair, blackened fingernails and breath so foul only a mother could love? No one would be happy- except the mouthwash manufacturers. Those who shun beauty as superficial are probably too lazy to reach for a bar of soap or the jump rope.

But, beautiful people are not necessarily supermodels with Greek-god faces and unreal proportions. That is a myth promulgated by sneaky salesmen of snakeoil creams and dangerous bust implants. Let them slather that muck on their faces 24/7. Then, I’d believe them.

Beautiful people are Normal people who watch their diet, keep their bodies clean, and don tasteful, yet inexpensive clothing. They maintain an empowered lifestyle, indulge in mind-expanding books and engage in varied activity that enriches their awareness.

Beauty, more importantly, is internal. The attractive assert their opinions and fight for convictions. Whether handsome or pretty, bland or plain, the internally beautiful betray an intelligence and burning diligence that reflects their personality. Recall that personality is molded by how we carry ourselves and associate with the world at large.

Finally, beauty is holistic. Magnetic people take effort to be the best that they can be. They understand that they are fusions of body, soul and spirit. Hence, they build up each facet by honing their talents and passions. They may have ordinary faces but lead extraordinary lives. These exceptional people are the best humanity can offer; they easily outshine the empty-headed Greek Models of the catwalk.

Augmenting beauty simply means caring of the body and the mind. It doesn’t take much effort, just a tad of self regulation. Here’s how to ooze magnetic attraction:

1. Books and periodicals are your best friend. Beef up what’s in your head and rack up more beauty points with your enlightened discussions. Intelligence is attractive.
2. Watch stand-up comedy. You will develop your sense of humour. Wit is a rare and valued commodity.
3. Is that a burger you’re shovelling down your throat? Stop. You are literally what you eat. Want to be a lard bucket? Then chomp that burger.
4. Soap, shampoo and mouthwash are better than all the pheromone sprays, libido enhancers and failed nose lifts. Good hygiene is the honey that attracts the delightful bees.
5. Dress to impress- 24/7. You probably had one of those moments. There you were, in sloppy coveralls at the mall. Then you run into the boss or a beautiful stranger. Say this with me: “NEVER AGAIN.” One more time. “NEVER AGAIN.”
6. Ask and Listen. The most dazzling conversationalists avoid monopolizing conversations. Rather, they ask tons of questions…. And listen for hours on end. Stop and think about that. Isn’t your best friend a great listener?
7. Finally, think sexy. Feel sexy. You are what you think you are. Your body follows what the mind dictates. The $3000 executive coaches like to pass this astounding piece of common sense for a hefty fee. Save the money.

So, get out there and glow. You can be attractive without those creams, lotions and surgeons.

Be bold. Choose beauty.

*** A master of manifestation to his associates, Joseph R. Plazo offers intense executive coaching  so people can find jobs and build careers.   Joseph achieved financial independence at 22, authored five NLP books, mentored hundreds and indulges in his passion for radionics. Always to take the initiative, his battle cry is "Ducunt volentem fata, nolentem trahunt."

How To Live Prosperously and conquer debt before the sun goes down
“How To Live Prosperously” And Conquer Debt Before The Sun Goes Down! by Anthony Kollar © 2005 “What if you could get your hands on some information that would literally alter the course of your life financially�"“Before The Sun Goes Down” A young man in ancient times, began his journey into debt. He slid headlong into the dark financial abyss. He found himself in a hopeless circumstance. With fading hope he sold himself into slavery to pay back the debt. Deeper and darker. Before long he was sold to another slave-owner. He found himself amongst strange people, different customs and language---brought even more despair. “!f only I had money, I could pay my debt. It would be easier. I would go back to the life I once had. Then one day he was handed a “clay tablet”. On it was carved, “The Secrets Of How To Obtain Wealth”. He asked for money�"the man looked the slave in the eyes and uttered these profound words. “Wouldest Thou A Bag Of Gold Or A Tablet Carved With Wisdom”. “Nobody understands----I need money to pay my debt off”. He was daily reminded of his debt---cleaning animals, shoveling stalls, eating scraps. Then he remembered, “wouldest thou a bag of gold, or a tablet carved with wisdom”. He pulled the tablet out and something amazing happened. The words came alive, he could feel the power deep down, as he read each of the secrets carved on the tablet of clay. Something amazing happened. At that moment he began to, “Live Prosperously And Conquer Debt Before The Sun Went Down”. Still in a terrible situation, but life was much different after that. “What if you could get your hands on some information that would literally alter the course of your life financially�"“Before The Sun Goes Down” Have you ever heard of Quantum Leap? It's when the electron of an atom mysteriously disappears---then reappears at a "higher level". Whewhooo! The good news---you do not have to stay where you are at financially! Quantum Leap your Finances to a "higher level". Stop being a victim. Just a few years ago we had a family tragedy. It wasn't too long before we spiraled downward financially, I mean waaaaay down. Bills were late, collectors were less than friendly----we did not want to answer the phone, scarcity, and lack was an everyday reality. I saw no way out. Those days were mighty dark. Then it happened! "Quantum Leap"---"We Disappeared" at that low level, and appeared at a “Higher Level”. “It’s My Turn To Hand The Clay Tablet To You! Ready! 1. “Your Thinking” Are You A Prosperous Thinker Or A Debt Thinker? Focused on what you “do not” have or what you have, what you "do not" want, or what you "want"? When I saw this---Everything changed. 2. “Your Speech" Your words support your thoughts---What does your speech reveal? Do you have a prosperous vocabulary or a debt/lack speech? I need, I want--- refuse to be needy Develop a vocabulary that attracted finances. 3. “Your Choices" Choices are an exact science---you get what you aim at. You are where you want to be, hard to belive, but true Different choices, different place financially. 4. "Take Action Now" I still remember my defining moment. I decided to take action, and not look back. Since that day--Life has been much different. Debt was conquered that day, "Before The Sun Set". "The Clay Tablet" is in your hands---It Works! Thanks for listening! Gods Blessings, Anthony Kollar www.29seconds.com

I have a love for writing and igniting peoples Dreams. Spending time with my wife and daughter give me the juice to Chase my Dreams. Gods Blessings, Anthony Kollar www.29seconds.com

How to Read the Body Language of Buyers And Sellers
Nonverbal communication, otherwise known as body language, is just as important as the words that are being spoken in a conversation, particularly during a sales meeting or presentation. Professional buyers and sellers know this. They can tell when something is amiss or not right by studying the approach of the vendor or the client as he walks into a room and takes a seat. You don't think it's possible? Read on. In majority of sales meetings, one party often assumes an "I am going to crush you" attitude; this eventually leads to misunderstanding and premature judgments. Often, nothing good comes out of meetings like this one. If one person starts out with a haughty attitude, the other will likely take a defensive stance and a subliminal battle of wits ensues. For example: The buyer enters the room briskly, sits back on his chair with some distance from the table, folds his arms over his chest, crosses his legs and then blurts out, "So, what is it you want to discuss?" The seller could respond to this by moving to the edge with his feet in a sprinter's stance and body leaning toward the buyer in a take-charge manner. He might also use his index finger with his hand gesticulations to drive his point across. This response could arouse suspicion on the side of the buyer, who likely hates a hard sell. As a result, the buyer puts up a defensive wall. Now both parties are edgy. Instead of discussing the product or idea congenially, the seller starts to feel insecure because the buyer does not seem to be listening to him, and is instead trying to find faults in what the seller is saying. This frustration could be the seller’s undoing. He might be compelled to ask no-no sales questions, such as "Don't you understand? What's wrong with you?" It doesn't take a genius to conclude that nothing good will come out of this situation. In fact, hostile feelings could even be produced and both parties are likely to walk away shaking their heads in annoyance. But this is just scratching the surface. While the above example might tell you a thing or two about how you and other human beings behave, it does not help you develop the skill of reading gestures and body language at the onset, so that situations like this one can be prevented. A lot of purchasing agents like to assume an ogre-like attitude with novice salespersons, because it gives them an air of authority and they enjoy watching the novices squirm. These persons are hard to sell to, yes. However, if the salesperson can ask effective questions that address the agent's particular interests and needs, this cool veneer will eventually fade. Conversely, if the agent takes off his glasses and puts it on the table, it means the meeting's over and you need to get out. If, during the sales pitch, the buyer leans closer and assumes a defensive gesture (like crossing his hands), this means he is not pleased with what you are saying. You can counter this by going back to your original position on the other side of the table and laying off your aggression slightly. There are those types of people who want to always maintain authority and will not appreciate having you over to their side of the fence. Selling is no easy task. In fact, it can be one of the most unglamorous professions in the world (that depends on your skills and attitude of course) �" and not many people regard sales people very highly. You can prevent this impression from taking over you by knowing how to read body language before defensive body language is thrown at you. It's a hard job, but since you're already there, you have to do it �" and do it well.

Michael Lee is the author of How to be a Red Hot Persuasion Wizard... in 20 days or less, an ebook that reveals mind-altering persuasion techniques on how to tremendously enhance your relationships, create unlimited wealth, and get anything you want...just like magic. Get a sample chapter and highly-stimulating "Get What You Want" advice at: http://www.20daypersuasion.com. He is the Co-Founder of http://www.self-improvement-millionaires.com and is licensed as a Certified Public Accountant.

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