STEPPING STONES TO LOVE
The stepping stones to love The highest or greatest of the expansive emotions is of course love. It is pure unconditional love. It is something that everyone wants to experience but we feel so removed from it in our lives that it seems impossible to bring it back into our experience. By building the emotions gently upon them selves, we start to experience them in their purity and a natural expansion starts to unfold and become prominent in our experience. Simply by activating it, it will happen. That is the beauty of praise, or simple appreciation. Simply by apply appreciation into our life, it will naturally activate and unfold into our life. Praise is like the turning point between the emotions that contract, or are negative, and the emotions that expand and are positive. Even if we believe there is absolutely nothing in our life that is worthy of praise, simply by apply it, some greater force is beginning to move in our life. Praise is the natural flow of creation. Everything in creation is singing to the tune of praise, except humans. We have the unique ability to condemn through our own perception. And it is by our perception that we bring misery and pain into our life. By changing our perception, out experience of life will effortlessly change. The first stepping stone to do that is the gentle but powerful emotion of praise. We know the affects that praise has on a young child. They will perform with love and joy for more praise. We know how we feel if we are praised. We acknowledge that appreciation and see life in a better light. Praise has the ability to begin the transformation into a greater experience of life. By giving and receiving praise then natural flow on this expansion of conscious emotions is gratitude. Praise naturally leads into pure gratitude. However, for most of us gratitude has become an automatic response that we simply say since we have been told to say thanks. In the grocery store we might say thanks as we receive our change from the check out person, but we rarely look them in the eye and fully mean it. It has become a programmed word in society and doesn’t hold any significance. But by being present when we say thanks, and putting a bit more awareness on the interaction when we speak, we very quickly notice a change. Without trying to change anything, naturally we start to notice a genuine gratitude for what is being given to us. We might notice real thanks for receiving. In that moment of pure gratitude there is nothing missing in our life. There is no need and there is no lack. Can you imagine a life with no sense of lack? It is a life which is full and complete. Just by starting to really be present with this emotion we start to allow an experience of contentment to enter and dominate our experience of life. As the emotions expand and build on each other, what is naturally experienced as a result of genuine thanks is the gentle truth of unconditional love. This isn’t the love of lust or of desire. This is the love of life itself, for existence. The natural gratitude flows into a love that is in itself genuine, full and complete. It’s a love that comes from within and needs nothing from anyone. It is the love of giving. It is the joy to give appreciation and gratitude all the time. It’s the real essence of who you are and what you are supposed to express. This is not the love that comes and goes. This is not something that we need to protect for encase we get hurt. This love is like a gentle rain which falls on all beings and all things. It doesn’t choose who to fall or not to fall on. It simply falls and nourishes all with its true purpose. The rain is the same as unconditional love. It’s the love of seeing another fellow human being and just genuinely loving them for being there in that moment. There is no more or less to love about anyone. No one deserves or is worthy of anything more or anything less. It is the love that doesn’t end, stop or turn off. It doesn’t run out. It is an eternal well from which life and love pours from, and that is within you. It also doesn’t overtake you and sweep you off your feet. You don’t loose control of who you are and become unable to function. It is the true connection to your inner being, your inner reality and the expression of who you are. But only by loving yourself, can this love flow from you in its purity out into the world around you. As unconditional love is experienced and expressed, another emotion is brought forth in all its truth, and that is pure compassion. Pure compassion is different from the compassion that we associate with pity or apathy. Pity is seeing someone as less than or in their drama. We are not being compassionate when we nurse that drama. True compassion is the expression of the unconditional love that is within you. It is total and unrestricted. It is placed with the absolute knowledge that the other person or situation is divine and treating it as such. Instead of lowering your vibration level to join them in their misery, you raise their vibration by showing them their truth, which is that they are perfect beings. They need to see the bigger picture to remove themselves from the misery which is just their perception. However the ultimate of true compassion has nothing to do with the outside, but everything to do with you. We are the most violent to ourselves. The thoughts we think and the things we tell ourselves, we wouldn’t dare to say to another person. We inflict so much violence and negativity towards ourselves through our thinking patterns. The greatest of true compassion is to be compassionate to us. We need to learn to be ok with who we are, where we are at, with what is happening, and to see the greater picture of ourselves. We are divine beings and it’s only by our negative thoughts that we don’t believe that or experience that. If we could become compassionate to ourselves first, then our growth in consciousness, our life and our world become an amazingly easy, fun, loving adventure to play in. So much of how we see ourselves, others and this world is filtered through our emotions. As our emotions change, so does our perception of everything. The emotions are a vital part of who we are, and we need to introduce ourselves to the experience of appreciation and gratitude to allow the pure love to be expressed. The more we recognise our emotions, the more we see we have a choice to change our experience of life to one on the stepping stones to love. Techniques taught in English and Spanish ph: (33) 3628 2336 www.ishaya.org
Jaya is a teacher of incredibley simple yet powerful techniques that give you the direct experience of transforming your life. The power of choice is within you.
Turn Your Hate into Happiness
I hate Mondays! I hate Birthdays! I hate Holidays! We hear these statements all the time from others and ourselves. Justification for our hatred of certain days isn?t hard to come by. Mondays represent the start of a workweek at a job we may despise. Birthdays represent the progression of years we all wish would move at a slower pace. Holidays tend to accentuate preexisting family feuds, loss of loved ones and economic low points. Some people take it a step further and center their anger on people or things.
I hate my cousin, nephew, mother-in-law, father-in-law, ex-boyfriend or next-door neighbor. I hate that dog who roams the neighborhood unsupervised, those kids that play loudly in front of my house or the Meter Reader who walks across my well-kept lawn. You may have some very legitimate reasons for centering anger and even hatred on these people and things, however, there is a price to be paid for constantly focusing on them and you may be surprised at what it is.
Almost everyone I know lives each day based on one or more sets of good or bad events. Those events dictate their every mood and help decide how they will live a particular day. This gives a huge amount of power to things, situations and people that they allow to influence their lives. That power is given away, not earned. In a culture obsessed with Psychology and Psychiatry, we are taught to believe that people, situations and things have power over us cause certain types of behavior. Instead of ignoring those influences, we?re encouraged to explore and understand them. While resolution is possible, it always seems to evade those who follow this path.
I know people who live on therapy and pills. I am not talking about individuals with legitimate mental disorders that may be successfully treated through medication; I am speaking about people who are told they need treatment because something in their lives is upsetting them. If that situation cannot be resolved, it should never be permitted to rule their lives. Some people spend all their time trying to resolve situations that should never have been allowed to overtake them. Sometimes we have to ignore, learn to accept or walk away from situations that we cannot control.
Everyone is different. Some people drive their vehicles all day blissfully unaware of what?s happening on the road around them. Others get upset and beside themselves if someone cuts them off or causes them to miss a light. Regardless of what sets you off in a positive or negative direction, it?s really all about allowing people, situations and things to have power over us. Most people have already surrendered their lives to circumstances. They wake up and allow everything around them to decide what kind of day they?ll have.
I always get a kick out of people I know who get angry with me for not being upset with whatever bad piece of news the media happens to be spewing out at any given time. ?Didn?t you hear what happened today?? Sure I did. It?s bad news. It has to be because most people in the news media know that good news just doesn?t sell. We are incessantly reminded by news reporters, political pundits and talk show hosts how important it is that we listen to them. Instead of making a well informed decision at the ballot box by voting for people we know will represent our particular viewpoint, we?ll told that we must constantly revisit every election by staying on top of government officials and all that they do.
The problem with being directly involved with every political, social or other issue on any given day is that it deflects us from what?s important in our own lives. I have seen more then a few people leave their families, jobs and anything that resembled a normal life to take on a cause they felt worth that cost. However, most of them were not in a normal state of mind when they made that decision. Instead of giving the matter careful thought, they responded to the call to a call for arms levied by other true believers.
There are people who leave radio or cable news channels on all day, then wonder why they are feeling so bad. I listen to the news; however, I do not allow it to decide what kind of day I am going to have. This doesn?t mean that I do not sympathize with people who have been hit by disaster, crime or some terrible calamity. I do. In fact, I have links on several of my websites for people to donate money, time or talent to help those afflicted by all sorts of disasters, economic situations and national tragedies. I care about and support various causes and charities like most other people. I just refuse to allow those things to overtake me on a personal level.
It scares me to think how much I used to allow everything happening around me to rule my life. It?s as if I was in some sort of a coma. I refused to happy unless something happened that gave me a reason to feel good. I lived based on the day?s events and everything going on around me. Needless to say, I was not happy a good deal of the time. I listened to experts on television and the radio and thought that maybe I was the kind of person who might have a tendency towards Depression. I was just about to seek help for being depressed, when I saw the light.
While watching television one morning, it dawned on me how influential the world around me had become on my life. I was watching the news early in the morning when one of my younger children came in the room. I switched the channel to some cartoons. I couldn?t help but watch what was on and started laughing. I went out that morning feeling really good. Why? Because my television had told me to. It provided some funny and uplifting entertainment that made me feel good.
Giving it some thought, I became upset at how much I was allowing all sorts of things happening around me to influence my life. I had joined the crowd that played the Blame Game. If someone in my family got me upset, I blamed them for ruining my entire day. If a friend or business associate called with bad news, it was their fault that I couldn?t function to my full potential that day. Not only did I blame others for my feelings, I blamed myself!
If I wasn?t feeling good most of the time, there must have been something mentally wrong with me. I automatically assumed that I needed therapy, pills or couch sessions to solve this imaginary problem. Fortunately, I tried something else before taking any of those steps. I decided to feel the way I wanted to feel each day regardless of my circumstances. After making that decision, it almost seemed ridiculous how much power I had allowed people and things to have over me. Not only did that decision change my personal life, it changed the way I did business.
I stopped allowing Nay Sayers to influence every business decision I made. Since the day I was born, people had told me about all the things I couldn?t do. They had decided that I fitted into a certain mold and needed to exist within that narrow expression of economic happiness. Not all of my business decisions have been good ones and thinking outside of the box hasn?t always benefited me. However, moving beyond people?s expectations and making decisions based on what I know about myself instead of everything happening around me have always been good steps in the right direction.
If you want to survive the daily grind and move beyond the influences of everything around you, it?s time to stop living based one what life tosses your way. It will not be easy. Misery loves company and everyone around you will miss the influence they have on the way you feel. You will not always be happy, but you will have the ability to be happy, sad or otherwise based on deliberate choice. You can either handle your emotions, or allow them to handle you.
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How To Build Your Positive Attitude
This article seeks to give you a solid knowledge base regarding the subject matter at hand, no matter what your previous experience on the topic. I am untaken to ask you to something very uncanny right now. First of all, I want you to snoop to your judgment. Now tell me, what judgment soak your advance? Would you marker them as positive, or damaging? Now let's say you are walking down the avenue with these judgment. Do you think everyone who would encounter you would be able to tell you what�s on your brains? The answer to number one is up to you. But, the answer number two can be beautiful generic. while people will not be able to tell you just what you think, they will more or excluding have an idea of how you are concern. As we take the journey through the final part of this article, you can look back at the first part if you need any clarifications on what we have already learned. Here's another subject. When you input a troop soaked with links, do they all accident silent as if something terrible had transpireed? Or does everyone there profit up as if waiting for something exciting to transpire? You know what? The answer to all these depends on your support of brains. judgment are very strong. They involve your broad attitude. The attitude you transfer reflects on your appearance, too � unexcluding, of course, you are a great actor. And it doesn't end there. Your attitude can also involve people around you. The mode of attitude you transfer depends on you. It can be each positive or damaging. solid judgment have a soaking provoke. They are admittedly invigorating. advantage, the people around the qualities transfering positive judgment are commonly thrilled by this mode of attitude. downbeat judgment on the other hand have a sapping provoke on other people. away from making you look overcast and sad, damaging judgment can curve a jovial gathering into a funeral stir. A positive attitude attracts people, while a damaging attitude repels them. People cultivate to shy away from those who transfer a damaging attitude. We can also describe attitude as the way of looking at the world. If you elect to focus on the damaging effects in the world, more or excluding you have a damaging attitude brewing up. However, if you elect to focus on the positive effects, you are more possible transfer a positive attitude. You have greatly to advantage from a very positive attitude. For one, studies have revealed that a positive attitude promotes better fitness. Those with this kind of attitude also have more links. projecting a positive attitude also helps one to alias stress and evils better than those who have a damaging attitude. A positive attitude begins with a fitnessy person-aura. If you will honey the way you are and are cheery, solid, and person-solid, you also make others are around feel the same way. A damaging attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an reverse provoke. So, transfering a damaging attitude has a twin drawback. You feel bad about yourperson, and you make others feel the same way. If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to highlight fitnessy judgment. This is doubtless very hard to do nowadays because, all around us, the media feeds us nothing but damaging judgment. A inquiry shows that for every 14 effects a father says to his or her product, only one is positive. This is sincerely a saddening thought. If you want a fitnessier outlook in life, you essential to think cheery judgment, and you have to learn positive effects as well. So, what can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a hilarious show, you could play with productren, expend some time forceful jokes with links. All these activities soak you with positive stimuli, which in curve promotes positive attitude. while it is impossible to keep ourselves from the damaging effects around us, you can still transfer a positive attitude by focusing on the good effects, the positive effects in life. And this positive attitude you now transfer can be of profit to other people. Sometimes when other people feel down, the thing people regularly do is try to give them opinion. But sometimes, all they essential is someone to sit by them, and snoop to them. If you have a positive attitude you may be able to cheer them up lacking even having to say something. If positive attitude is sincerely great, why do people elect to adopt a damaging attitude instead? One who carries a damaging attitude may be actually transfer a gesture for notice. Before you get me harm, concern sad, outraged, or overcast is not harm itperson. But residence on these judgment for far too long is not fitnessy each. There is a time to bewail. As forever, if you are inundated by troubles, even in your darkest hour, focus on the good effects in life, you will forever have wish. evils become something you can overcome. You do not have greatly to evade by adopting a fitnessy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually retards aging, makes you fitnessier, helps you widen a better stress coping method, and has a very positive provoke on all the people you encounter every day. So, what's not to like about a positive attitude? Adopt one nowadays. Over time, you will begin to understand how these concepts really come together if you choose to venture into this subject further.
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Have You Heard All The Hype About The Secret?
First the DVD was released, and then the book, and then the audio book was available. These products are now followed with the Science of Getting Rich program which promises to show you how to attract what you want into your life.
The imagery of the genie in the DVD assuring that “your wish is my command” has led many into believing that all they need to do is ask and all the riches of the world will be forthcoming for them. These promises are supported again and again by successful and well-known people, offering us all everything that we want.
And whilst The Secret has become a world-wide phenomenon with millions purchasing it and hoping to change their lives, this has just been the trigger for the critics to come out of the woodwork.
Try these quotes from Australia’s biggest selling newspaper, the Herald Sun (Bryan Patterson, 29/04/2007):
"The supposed secret is basically the law of attraction that goes something like this: if you wish for something you will get it. All you have to do is 'put in your order with the universe'."
And
"It's an inexact pseudo-science where superstition is mistaken for spirituality and materialism is the goal. It is basically a recycling of the positive-thinking theory with a nasty twist."
So what’s the real story?
Is it all a bunch of hype so that a few people can sell a lot of products and make a motza?
Or is it for real?
*** What The Law of Attraction Really Says
The sceptics are quick to take a simplistic view of the Law. The sceptics talk about magically getting what you want through a few positive thoughts … but this ISN’T what the Law of Attraction says.
The Law of Attraction is that you attract everything into your life through your thoughts. Your thoughts are the magnets that attract things, experiences and people to you.
In The Secret, the three steps of the Creative Process are identified:
1. Ask for what you want
2. Believe it’s already yours
3. Receive
And whilst these sound simple enough, there are some subtleties that the cynics miss.
* You need clarity on what it is that you want.
* You need to take inspired action to manifest your desires.
* Your emotions are the barometer of the attraction process �" if you’re feeling good, then you’re attracting good things, if you’re feeling bad, then you’re attracting bad things.
* It may happen quickly, but it won’t necessarily happen in seconds.
* If you send out a conflicting message, then your original message will get lost.
* You need to be receptive to what is coming. This generally translates into gratitude for what you have.
I’ve seen none of these points mentioned by The Secret Cynics!
It is worth pointing out that The Secret isn’t new. And despite it being said that those who knew of it in times gone by kept it secret, there are some famous works with the same message.
Chief among these are The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D Wattles and Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. When these were first published, they had a limited audience due to the technology of the time. Now, however, both books are readily accessible to anyone with an internet connection.
For many, The Secret is the first taste of the powerful Law of Attraction that governs our Universe. People see it and get excited. Then, when the millions fail to appear they dismiss it and continue with the drudgery of their lives with dashed hopes.
Don’t be one of those people! Embrace the true Law of Attraction and change your life.
Bronwyn Evans is joint founder of Create Prosperity, a guided journey - a website rich with resources for those who want to change their lives by consciously applying the Law of Attraction and using EFT to blast through limiting beliefs that can inhibit your progress. The Create Prosperity vision is to share the paradigm of prosperity. We are supporting people on their long term journey to limitless, powerful creation. More at: http://www.createprosperity.com.au.
Self Talk -- Secret Mind Control!
Self Talk -- Secret Mind Control!
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Folks, this is not theoretical philosophy, this is a
practical day to day way to drastically alter your life for
the better.
Read what Denis Waitley said in his audio course, "Seeds of
Greatness:"
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"The second best kept secret of total success is that OUR
MINDS can't tell the difference between real experience and
one that is VIVIDLY and REPEATEDLY imagined. Undertanding
this secret of the power of the imagined experience is the
key to understanding human behaviour.
Many of our everyday decisions are based upon information
about ourselves which has been stored as truth, but which is
really a combination of hearsay from family friends and
peers, actual past experiences, and information we read,
listen to, and view on TV.
During every moment of our lives, we program our
imaginations, or we allow others to program them, to work
for us, or against us."
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Self talk is something we all do every day without realizing
it! These are little comments and conversations we have with
ourself at an almost unconsious level. Here are some
examples:
You just fumbled and dropped and broke a glass: "Wow, I'm a
real klutz" you think to yourself.
You've been trying for a long time to figure out how to use
your computer on the internet: "I'm a computer illiterate"
you say quietly to yourself with guilty pleasure.
You wake up feeling stiff: "I'm growing old already!" you
mutter.
You make a mistake adding a column of numbers: "I'm no good
at math" you whisper to your unconcious mind.
What's the result of all this? Say the above responses often
enough, day after day, and you become a klutzy aging person
who can't do math or use computers!
You see, the UNCONSIOUS MIND is always listening, and it's
like a trusting puppy that takes whatever you say seriously.
It doesn't censor the constant input from you and the
environment and people around you, it assumes that your
CONSCIOUS MIND knows what it's doing and is sending it real
facts.
As Denis Waitley explained above, your mind is like a
waiting computer, and it accepts programming all day long,
whether you realize it or not.
Once you know and really understand this vital process, you
can turn it to your advantage.
Here are the positive responses to the above examples,
responses that will program your mind to higher acheivement
in life rather than lower expectations:
"I'm paying more attention to everything I do and am
becoming more agile every day!"
"I'm putting more effort into learning my computer and
pretty soon I'll be surfing the net like a pro!"
"I'm exercising more so my body gets in shape and feels
younger!"
"I'm getting better at math every time I do it, practise
makes perfect!"
What's the result of all this? Your unconsious mind supports
you in exercising your mind and body more, you find yourself
getting more healthy and capable, and able to do what you
want to do.
You will continue to do self talk the rest of your life,
whether or not you think about it. It's up to you to turn it
into a positive force that will enable you to become
successful and accomplish things in life that others believe
to be impossible.
So become aware of your self talk, and also of the talk of
those around you on a daily basis. Whenever you find
yourself doing negative self talk, stop immediately and
replace it with positive self talk. With some practice, you
can use positive self talk every day to transform your life.
Stop associating with people who give you negative self
talk, find people in your life who will support you with
positive self talk! Seek out books and courses that give you
positive ideas, and spend at least a half hour or an hour a
day reading those books or listening to tape or CD life
afirming courses. Become a new person, the one you really
want to be!
Suggested reading & listening:
"How To Get What You Really, Really, Really Want in Life" by
Dr. Wayne Dyer
"Think and Grow Rich" by Napolean Hill
"The Psychology of Winning" by Denis Waitley
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
"The Magic of Believing" by Claude Bristol
Be well and happy,
Marty Leaventon
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The Law of Attraction Accelerator
The Law of Attraction ...
"You get what you think about"
"Your thoughts determine your destiny"
It is often said that emotions are the factor that increase or decrease the speed of attraction relative to how much you feel about the subject you are attempting to attract.
One of the critical steps to the Law of Attraction is visualizing exactly what you want. All of the experts interviewed agree - the more precisely you visualize - the better the Law of Attraction works. But the opposite is true as well. The less you visualize, the less noticeable the results. And even worse for most folks - if you are unable to visualize exactly what you want, the Law of Attraction can give you the opposite of what you desire and you never see the results you want.
Once you are able to visualize, the Law of Attraction works wonders for everyone who sincerely follows its simple formula. Better than that, once you discover it works in one part of your life, you'll be able to apply it everywhere.
And best of all, you'll bypass the roadblocks that stopped the Law of Attraction from bringing you all the success you deserve. You can reverse the negative and fatal attractions you are experiencing in your life.
Regardless of whatever happened in your past, financial problems, bankruptcy, never managing to make ends meet, the past is over. Your future begins as soon as you begin to use the Law of Attraction.
And you may not recognize your future based on your past.
Imagine for a moment you are driving your car but instead of looking ahead - you are only looking through the rear view mirror. It would be a disaster waiting to happen!
But the Law of Attraction is going to change all that as you manifest your financial success.
How surprised will you be to discover how simple it is to reach and even exceed your goals?
Not only is your past irrelevant here, even what is going on in the present. The only thing that matters is...your future when you sit back and let the Law of Attraction go to work for you.
Are you ready to taste and enjoy the success you deserve? Are you ready to show all those people who made fun of you for trying to harness the Law of Attraction that it really works.
The Law of Attraction isn't just about going from barely making it to the level of survival; it's about experiencing life to the fullest as every single one of your dreams becomes true.
Terence Tan is a Trainer who coaches people in the fields of Business Success, Personal Development and Entrepreneurial Thinking. He has used the Law of Attraction to create multiple businesses spanning more than 6 countries. Learn more about the Law of Attraction he uses on this site: http://www.personaldevelopmentgoal.com/attraction
You Are Not A Victim; You Are Not Alone
If you don?t feel good about yourself, you have to fix it. There?s no other way around it. You can?t raise confident kids, have a healthy relationship, or get satisfaction from your job if you don?t. This comes from someone who didn?t, for most of her life, feel worthwhile. Many books come from the perspective of an expert, someone who already has a healthy sense of self-worth, which I believe immediately sets up an alienating perspective between them and us, those who ?know? and the rest of us who struggle with this issue. They assume they know better. They may think they know better, and have a worthwhile plan, but we know what it is really like, we have experienced and not just judged our self-defeating behavior.
We all have varying degrees of self-doubt. A person can be wildly successful in their life, and still have deep-seated feelings of worthlessness. There is a fear of discovery that others will come to see what?s behind the curtain in Oz. So we strive to accomplish more and more, climb to greater heights, yet it?s never enough. You may try to hide it, this low sense of self-worth, but like the alcoholic who wants to keep his drinking a secret, but staggers nonetheless, it is a visible illness. To continue the analogy, I want to be sober. In this case sobriety equals integrity and confidence.
Here is where to begin. It?s the Victim Thing. The most tragic or toxic aspect of victim hood is that victims don?t know they are playing the part of the victim. They see all around them evidence of betrayal, duplicity, and injustice so their victim status is validated and for the most part goes unquestioned. This is why I say, be careful, or the discovery that you have been wronged may be the last discovery you make. We all have injustice and dysfunction in our lives. We have to come to understand that these are just events that come and go. Again, It?s not the circumstances that define us; it?s how we react to them.
Some of us could and do spend many hours, years, in therapy or in our rooms trying to figure out how we got to be this way, but?this is essential?none of it matters. It truly doesn?t matter how we got to be damaged goods, or rather, it may matter to you, but it is not the solution; it is simply part of a very long and complicated story. You may very well know how and when you got to this point, but leave the blame for now and ask instead what comes nex?
Life is about choices. I can feel trapped in my life, but I can choose to begin writing this. I can choose to eat a healthy meal. I can choose to go for a walk. I can choose how to respond to my significant other. Every conscious choice I make brings me that much closer to the integrity I seek, or makes it less likely. The consequence of choosing is to remove myself from the victim role. Victims don?t create their lives; they react to them.
Acceptance is central to the process of coming out from under our victimhood. I would say that it is one of the basic tenets of all spiritual traditions, one that we can use in our everyday life, in the mundane and tragic circumstances within which we find ourselves. Like making conscious choices instead of reacting, it takes practice. I am stuck in traffic. I have lost my job. I am sick. One alternative is protest, anger, and bitterness. A person with low self-worth takes these things personally. A person with integrity and confidence accepts and adapts.
The key question in any adverse circumstance is, ?What do I do now and next?? Sometimes all you can do is breathe deeply. Other times you can take definitive action, but again, you are making conscious choices instead of reacting, you are accepting your circumstances. Everything changes. This applies to the good situations as well as to the negative. That is why the phrase, ?This too shall pass,? is so powerful. Peace of mind comes from accepting yourself, your life, wherever you happen to be at any given time.
Acceptance is the bottom line. Good choices grow from acceptance. There will always be someone better or worse off than we are. Good and bad things happen to us and to others and can happen at any time. Our life may have been difficult or a breeze. Who?s to say? You are. I am. To say that something is unfair is to return to the victim mode. Don?t live a life of protest. You?ll miss so much of what is given. Think of the world and it?s mysterious ways as an impersonal agency, so there is nothing served by anger and resistance. We only succeed in restricting ourselves further. We are worthwhile in our own shoes, where we stand. Practicing and believing this is so brings the part of ourselves that we love to the surface, and then the way gets easier and clearer.
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I am Charmed, and You?
Possessing a charming way will open many doors. The latent charm lurking within you is your secret and hidden away gold mine. Your charm is like a pearl inside the oyster, and once it is discovered and polished can highlight and greatly enrich your personality and success. Charm is that intangible quality within you, that when uncovered and freed from suffocating baggage, can add a subtle power to your presence that is irresistibly pleasing. The influence of this charm will attract, calm, assuage, placate and delight anyone with whom you come into contact. The ability to win over and influence people is in direct proportion to the charm you are able to summon up and demonstrate. Charm can be developed like every other quality or attribute of the mind by adopting and practicing some basic rules. Adaptation, the art of agreeing with another person for the sake of amicability is lesson one. Finding common ground through genuine curiosity lowers defenses and paves the way for further exploration. Adaptation is an acknowledgment of another’s ‘right to be’ right or wrong. As Voltaire said, "I do not agree with a word you say but I shall defend to the death your right to say it." The goal is to charm not to reform. The primary rule is for you to be yourself. Any kind of physical makeover, including that phoney smile, won’t do the trick. Affectations and pretense, even a well rehearsed choreography, is swift and certain death to charm. It is easy enough to attract and get attention by artifice, but to influence anyone beyond surface pleasantries, you must possess the power of charm within. A smile may win a first look, but it takes the conscious power of charm to obtain results. Authenticity is genuine and indisputable, easily picked up by others as the real thing, where pretense is usually unmasked. By practicing the techniques of charm from within, you can put your prospect or antagonist at ease and even inspire them to do your bidding. Projecting charm requires give and take. The first technique is to listen. You must be an attentive listener interested in hearing what the other person has to say, which also means paying close attention and really comprehending what they have to say and where they are coming from in saying it. The second fundamental is to always be humble, gentle and polite. By adopting these traits you will project a gracious and friendly manner which communicates the attitude that you are both likeable and approachable. Treat all people that you meet as potential friends. By displaying an open and positive attitude, and making others feel that your own life was incomplete before having met them, empowers them, and in turn they will become endeared to you. Interest, kindness, and humbleness are a major part of being charming. Giving praise is another. Praise is like a rare gemstone which derives its worth from its scarcity. Praise is one of the greatest motivating forces there is, and when sincerely applied can work wonders. Praise a dog and he is your friend. Praise children and they will glow with joy. Praise your ability with gratitude and you increase the flow of intelligence into your endeavors. Positive praise feelingly applied is an active multiplier. Praise what you have and more will be available to you. Praise is a positive expression of appreciation. In the case of others, it gives hearty and warm approval and breaks down barriers. If anyone you meet deserves your approbation, by all means give it, and in so doing you enhance their appreciation of your own qualities, a win win situation powered by charm. The third element of charm is tolerance. Life is a compromise, and to realize and accept this adds to ones peace of mind and enjoyment. People are entitled to their own opinion, and possessing tolerance allows respect for diverse opinions, without necessarily believing or sharing them. Respect for another’s point of view will always enlarge your own world view. By exercising tolerance you dispel prejudice and vanity. It is the essential quality necessary to establish the true relationship between divergent situations on an impersonal basis. By becoming tolerant you learn not to take the world and the events and people in it too seriously, yourself included, thus enabling your sense of humor to expand. A true and easy smile and the ability to have a good laugh will relax you, and in so doing, aid you in peace of mind and efficiency. Tolerance and a good sense of humor are indeed additional gems to have in your crown of charm. Charm is the art of pleasing. You need to be poised along with possessing the ability to act natural. Your ability to be pleasingly spontaneous and to act natural is a reflection of your habits. If these habits have been formed through the proper training of grace, poise and cleanliness, then they add to your charm. Negative habits of sloth, crudeness and loutishness diminishes. Charm refines the essence of your personality and permits the radiant beauty of your real being to shine through. Possessing charm will greatly augment your effectiveness. It makes it possible for you to always present yourself in the most favorable light. Through the glow of charm you will feel healthier and those worry lines will soon be replaced by your infectious smile. So train and equip yourself in the art and power of charm. It will enrich your presence and add immeasurably to your personal satisfaction and happiness.
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Manifesting Higher Intuition
When you ask most successful people the reason why they choose a take a particular action they will always tell you that there was within them a feeling. Although they may not know particularly how to define that feeling they know it as a true guide in taking the next and best step. In order to truly manifest the things we want as well as the life we want to live we have to become aware of our intuitive nature. To live the life of a conscious creator we must develop our ability to attune to that finer vibration or energy and that inner voice which guides us. Without it life would continue to be frustrating. You may know clearly what it is that you want to manifest in your life, you may know that action is required but if you do not know the correct action to take then there will be needless steps and confusion. Eventually you will get it, you will get where you are hoping and wanting to go but the path can still be quite difficult when your intuitive senses are tuned off. You may know all the steps to manifesting what you want. You may know to ask, you may know to visualize it all, but you may not know just how best to listen to what is being presented to you. You may also be clueless to the things that interfere with your desire to stay focused. This is probably one of the greatest downfalls in many people’s life when setting out to accomplish a dream or a goal. You may hear other people say it over and over that as soon as they make progress in one area of their life they seem to fall back in their lives. You may have said this yourself at some point. This is one area where the intuition could benefit you. When you increase your intuition you move into a higher space of awareness. You have an upper hand in your life experiences. You are better able to tell if an action you are about to take will have a positive outcome. You can project into the future and foresee your present condition which would help you in making wiser choices. You can also become more aware of the things which take you off course and interfere with your ability to manifest more quickly. You are probably now able to see the many benefits of increasing your intuitive nature and why working on your intuition is not a desire limited to psychics alone. Did you know that you could use those same methods of manifest things to manifest a higher intuition? You can start very easily by asking yourself how you feel. The feeling is the guide which opens the door to your higher intuitive voice. The more you practice asking yourself how you feel about a thing the strong your ability to hear that inner voice will be. Take a problem you maybe having right now, one that requires that you make a choice. Now close your eyes and take a deep relaxing breath. Simply say out loud to yourself, “I want to know which is the best choice.” After doing that, visualize yourself in one choice. Play out that scenario in the best and most possible way. Then when you are done also play out the second choice in the best possible way. Give no more than a few minutes to each choice. After you are done examine your feeling about each. How did each one make you feel? Each one has a distinct feeling. One would feel much more joyful and more positive while the other may seem less of a good choice. Its that feeling place that you want to be aware of all the time. The more you do this exercise the stronger your ability will be that you don’t need to close your eyes or spend much time on it. What you are aiming for is the ability to tap into that feeling place automatically. As you play with asking yourself the question of how you feel about once thing or another your ability to sense grows stronger and not only will you be able to sense if a thing will be favourable or not you will then be able to predict outcome. Full thoughts and images will enter into your awareness and you will be amazed by your new ability to know. The inner feeling will become stronger and it will guide you all the time.
Chrisanthia Pierre is the author of several guides on manifesting including The Secret Place. Visit The Secret Place http://www.thesecretplace.biz to learn secrets to manifesting that few people presently know.
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